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Older couple created a triad relationship with a younger man
Return to DiscussionsSo, I've been with my (one) husband for almost 20 years. We were not monogamous, but we did only play with others while together. Never separate, that felt like cheating to us. We were seeing younger guys. We were told by them that they preferred older mature guys because we were stable, had less drama, and we knew what we wanted.
We had been considering the idea of polyamory. A year ago we met a young man. We were all three compatible, enjoyed each others company, and we all fell in love. We are now "thrusbands". We are exclusive and do not play with others. He is very submissive and eager to learn and to please. We benefit in that he makes us feel vibrant, virile, young.
We have not seen anything negative from this relationship. We all love each other, we all share each other, and we all want to be with each other. No harm, no foul. There is no room for jealousy in polyamorous relationships. One feels joy for the other two if one cannot be there. We do occasionally travel separately for work, so one may be solo and two remain together.
As with any other relationship, whether with two or more persons, it is a relationship based on love and trust.
I love the idea that you don't have to draw a line between who is a lover and who is a friend. Its about what is the path of my heart in this moment. I personally was the youngest in a similar relationship for few months and it was great. I have learned a lot. I think younger guys should try it with older and see how it goes. You guys are awesome and all the best.
There is no line. We are all lovers and all friends to the extent that we allow ourselves to be. We are all capable of deep bonds of sexual, spiritual, emotional and intellectual brilliance. But the energy we have is finite and so much of it goes into fighting the world. Imagine if instead it went into loving more. More love for everyone you touch. Near and far. In order for this to happen, the lines must blur, the boundaries must fall.
But the energy we have is finite and so much of it goes into fighting the world. Imagine if instead it went into loving more. More love for everyone you touch. Near and far. In order for this to happen, the lines must blur, the boundaries must fall.
Wow. You just opened up something important I never connected before. The love and energy you refer to in the context of an unconventional relationship sounds just like how I learned Christian love is meant to be. I remember learning about it, specifically Jesus' teachings, and feeling so liberated, only to be admonished for letting things get out of control. Jesus love is about love out of control and Christian love - as per the dogma I got - is about orderly love with predictable outcomes. No wonder I have suffered and felt shamed. No wonder I have looked up to gay men and others for getting it, not knowing what "it" is, My suffering isn't about sexual orientation, but rather about the nature of love, a love for love's sake alone, rather than a love because it's the right love and the others got the wrong love. This is likely duh so obvious to gay men and many others, but I can only grow on my own timeline.
Suddenly, I feel a wave of sadness hit me. I feel sad how my mother only held or hugged me conditionally and how my father didn't at all. Not at all. I feel sad because I long to have a relationship with a woman but don't see any out there who are loving for the sake of love rather than outcomes. It's rather the nudist, gay and bi men outside of conventional norms who are there like you. I see the young man in the triad that this thread started out with. It's not about age or twosomes or threesomes or gay, bi or straight relationships. It's about love which is life changing and good. I can acknowledge sadness of my past and move on from there to be a loving father and to show up to love and kindness however it presents itself, and know that it is good. Thanks for changing lives by being you. I'm sorry I'm so slow in understanding.
I think this is a fabulous relationship and quite natural. I don't think 'body shaming' is the issue. Unfortunately, as with any generation, there is pressure to have a manly image. These days it's huge muscles and a beard. Unfortunately, slim men are considered less than manly. Some of the hardest men I've ever met looked like they sat behind a desk all day. Sadly the pressure often comes from inside. Hopefully, with your guidance, he'll grow and ditch any fears of being naked.
And to the idiot who questioned the validity of these experience, go look at the rising level of young men who have real mental issues, or are committing suicide, because of the pressure to conform to some fashion generated ideal.