Nude At Home
For Males or Females who love to be nude at home or anywhere... Be Nude and Show Face.
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Visitors
Return to DiscussionsShould one get dressed in order to answer the door to unwanted visitors?
I have a sign on my garden gate saying 'no visitors except by appointment'. However, people regularly ignore and bang on my door (like this morning). I could not decide whether to answer the door naked (on the basis that since whoever it was had chosen to invade my privacy they had no right to complain) or ignore them. I chose the latter. Completely fail to see why I should have to grab clothes etc and get dressed just because someone (uninvited) has taken it upon themselves to bang on my front door.
I think you'll have to come up with the answer that best fits you, Soonbnude. Given the circumstances and presuming you really value the ongoing relationship with your sister in law, I think it may be worth honestly bringing it up again that you appreciate her dropping in and don't want your nude activities to get in the way of that. I'd be concerned she may be polite about it not bothering her while quietly deciding to not drop by as often. If she's genuinely comfortable with unannounced visits on side yielding a little surprise then all good, but if she baulks even a little at the prospect, then establish a little protocol (texting 'I'm on my way!', you automatically grabbing the shorts as soon as she arrives, etc.) to ensure nothing gets in the way of maintaining the relationship. Maintaining the effort to keep the relationship strong with your brother in law would also help.
Props for staying strong in your recent times.
I had a visitor drop in on my during the week, my sister in law. I'd been skinny dipping in her pool with her husband in the past and both she and my wife were there but we had all had a few drinks at the time. Her husband is away and she was dropping in to check up on me and have a coffee, she's been good to me since my wife's passing. I explained that I'm often naked at home, she seemed OK and didn't ask me to cover up but we did have the kitchen table between us. What are the best suggestions here, should I have offered to cover up or get dressed?
This is just me; I would have offered to cover up. I'd most likely ask why my nudity made her uncomfortable, if it did. I would have said something like, "morning! You've caught me in my normal state while home. If my being nude makes you uncomfortable, I will go slip on something." After covering up, I then would have asked, "out of curiosity, can you tell me why my being nude made you feel uncomfortable?"
In most cases, if that person is honest, it will almost always be because nudity = sex for them and your simple nudity is sexual. This would be a good segue into a conversation about nudism.
I've have felt what the 'heck' even when the guest were nudist but didn't unclothe and were visiting for a while and I was the only naked. It got to be uncomfortable for me. I'm not to be a show or turn anyone in general I suppose is why I just felt out out of place. I am not a 'my place my rules' type. If Luann who is reserved about receiving guest naked no matter nudist friends or not without a covering they always follow her lead. I may not care for it but I will pull on some sweats in those times.