Any suggestions on how to approach the topic to guests?
Return to DiscussionsOk home nudists hoping the broader experience in the group has some recommendation/suggestions for managing the topic of clothing optional environment at the house.I'm ahome nudist and over time I've told many friends that there is a good chance that I will be nude when they come over... unless they specifically say that it would make them uncomfortable. Like many of you, I've gotten a pretty warm reception to the idea. At least in theory... I don't get a lot of guests. :)
Here is my dilemma, I've recently started working with a vet who does her visits primarily though house calls. She'll be coming every couple of weeks for several months. Do I tell her about the clothing optional and offer her the same out as my friends, or do I just not bring it up and remain clothed while she is here? She's only been here once so far and I was clothed, but her average appointment time is 2 hours.Next appointment is tomorrow.Thanks in advance my nudie friends!
We actually have a sign on our driveway that says "Clothing is Optional Here You may see nudity", with our phone number at the bottom. So far, only one person has called and asked if we could be dressed for their visit. You might try that approach.
So, that went surprisingly well. Turns out she doesn't really care either way and understands that I'm just trying to be comfortable and not inappropriate.Now that I've set the tone, I wonder if she expects that I'll answer the door naked from now on.Another day, another problem...Thanks for the assistance!
Well... That kind of blew up in my face. Forewarned her when I confirmed her arrival time.. Telling her that if she wasn't comfortable to let me know. She said no worries. When I answered the door, she asked me to get dressed.
Everything was fine afterwards. I apologies for the misunderstanding and ensured that I was not trying anything inappropriate. She said she was uneasy about it and asked that we do future appointments at one of the facilities she works out of.
I agreed, saying that I wanted to do what she felt was best.
Here's hoping we're able to put it behind us.
We have a sign by the front door warning all that they may be seeing naked people when entering the house. Whether we are naked or not, it always brings up the conversation. Since we have been doing this for more than 30 years, our friends and business friends come knowing already. We find the friends who come over often at the beginning are the ones interested and and join us in no time. Our business was out of the house and our employees ended up all nudists too.Life is short, live it the way you want.
Ok home nudists hoping the broader experience in the group has some recommendation/suggestions for managing the topic of clothing optional environment at the house.I'm ahome nudist and over time I've told many friends that there is a good chance that I will be nude when they come over... unless they specifically say that it would make them uncomfortable. Like many of you, I've gotten a pretty warm reception to the idea. At least in theory... I don't get a lot of guests. :)Here is my dilemma, I've recently started working with a vet who does her visits primarily though house calls. She'll be coming every couple of weeks for several months. Do I tell her about the clothing optional and offer her the same out as my friends, or do I just not bring it up and remain clothed while she is here? She's only been here once so far and I was clothed, but her average appointment time is 2 hours.Next appointment is tomorrow.Thanks in advance my nudie friends!
Interesting dilemma. Hard to know what to say here. I hired a handyman last year to do work on my home and I told him straight up that he most likely would see me naked. He's become so comfortable with nudity - he now does work in my home naked. The only thing I can add here is talk to her but be prepared for a negative response.The fact that your were forthcoming and honest with her is admirable. She was the one that did not "honestly" assess her own thoughts and feelings about it in the beginning by implying it would not be an issue, but then making it an issue once she was in (YOUR HOME) while you were nude.
The suggestions that some have given regarding some use of signage either near, around, or on the doorway prior to entry is an idea I have always wanted to take advantage of at my own home. If I was a home-owner, I would definitely do just that. Unfortunately, I'm a renter in an apartment complex and I think it would bring up unwanted issues opposed to if I owned the property.
The idea was to create a sign that would set a nice "welcoming" tone and atmosphere (both in appearance and wording of the sign) with a sub-message indicating that my home is a nudist (clothing-optional) resident and give the guest the option to (knock 3 times if comfortable with the homeowner being nude) or (knock 5 times if he/she prefer the homeowner to be clothed). This gives the opportunity for the guest to feel more in control of the outcome. Additionally, it will likely prompt them to inquire further about my lifestyle as a nudist allowing me opportunity to present the great benefits of this way of living and clear up any preconceived ideas or misconceptions they may have about those of us who enjoy being naked as much as possible.
Would be interesting to hear about any followup stories should you decide to go with such an idea or similar.
Tim--
Well... That kind of blew up in my face. Forewarned her when I confirmed her arrival time.. Telling her that if she wasn't comfortable to let me know. She said no worries. When I answered the door, she asked me to get dressed.Everything was fine afterwards. I apologies for the misunderstanding and ensured that I was not trying anything inappropriate. She said she was uneasy about it and asked that we do future appointments at one of the facilities she works out of.I agreed, saying that I wanted to do what she felt was best. Here's hoping we're able to put it behind us.
Do you know what went wrong?Did she think you were joking?
This is a great topic which would be great if you could elaborate on.
Thanks, J&J