Is my neighbor a nudist, too?
Return to DiscussionsWhat is the best way to approach someone to ask if they are a nudist? I have a next door neighbor who has a window facing our house from which I have seen him several times in the early morning (I have to leave at 5am for work) without a shirt, but this seems to be a kitchen window over a sink so I can't see anything else. In fact, the only time I have seen this gentleman dressed is one day when he helped me push my broken down Jeep into our driveway. I suspect he may be a nudist, and if so, I'd like to let him know we are as well and would like to invite him over for a barbecue or something, but given the circumstances, I can't think of a non-creepy way to ask. "Hey, I've seen you at five in the morning several times through your kitchen window. Are you a nudist?" just doesn't sound like a good idea. I don't want to come across as a creep. Also, I don't want to outright say something like "Hey, we're going to be grilling burgers, you want to have some? By the way, we're nudists." because we live in a trailer park without fences. It's a well-kept park, but I fear that the nature of the openness of the park could lead to concern on his part if he, in fact doesn't approve of nudity. Our back yard is still pretty secluded, but if he were to complain to management, we're being nude on THEIR land, and that could get us evicted and even tangled up with the law.
How do approach this delicately and without sounding like a total creep?
As my profile indicates, I'm just a home nudist, and my wife, while being tolerant, is strictly textile.
Well, I could enjoy some nude sun, were it not for Mary's panic if I dare step out on to the patio. She fears our neighbor to the east will see, be shocked, and report me. (We have a shadowbox privacy fence.)
However, that neighbor is also a home nudist, indoors, since her property is a corner lot, and the height of her fence is limited by ordinance. Otherwise, I'm confident, (since she has intimated this to me) she would be absorbing the sun's rays too.
Sigh. If I told Mary that, however, I would be compelled to purchase yet another cast iron skillet to replace the one she would crack on my head. :)
Jim
I was showing our neighbors how we remodeled the backyard and his wife said damn you could go naked back here and laughed.... I said yes you can and we do, so if you pop your head over the fence to ask a question don't be shocked LOL i said I also cut the grass nude too. They laughed and said nothing wrong with that... They are in their late 60's..
Bull crapping with another guy at work and he was telling me about his hot tub, I said hope u have the same rule as mo NO SWIMWEAR ALLOWED.... He said damn right, then he told me he goes to a nude resort in Mexico
It's much easier to determine your neighbors are not nudists. I've noticed a few houses around where they never seem to close blinds or the front door even after dark. I tend to think they are not nudists. (Not that there's anything wrong with that)
Think I got seen the other day in the garden naked by the neighbours kids, I was sitting in my bedroom near the window and I heard the youngest say to his granddad, "We saw the man next door naked in the garden yesterday." I didn't hear when he said back.I can only assume they saw me when I was trying to fix the water sprinkler, I couldn't fix it whilst it was turned off and I didn't want to have to keep walking up and down the garden to turn the water on and off. So I just turned it on and took my shorts off and messed about with it whilst I was naked (which in itself was a lot of fun). I didn't even know they were in the garden, they are usually very noisy, but I guess they were quiet for a change. It was a hot day and getting soaked by the sprinkler felt very erotic and I hope it wasn't when I was walking back down the garden with a hard cock bouncing up down when they saw me. :)
Mind you, since I heard that, I've been playing with the sprinklers in the garden more than usual as I've had the house to myself for the last few days and getting sprayed with coldwater on a hot dayfeels great. :)
I think mine might be losing up some , this year before summer was here I got the guts to say to the neighbor I was a nudists and if it was ok if I it was alright with them if I could use my backyard to my surprise they did not care , over the summer I have notice them wearing less around, and a couple of weeks ago my wife told me the neighbor was out one morning in just a tank top and underwear with there dogs
Well, I know that is the case but they are missing something wonderful in their life and will probably never know it till they are old and gray, and then it is too late, allthere better days are gone. I guess one of the better things about getting old is you don't care what others think anymore. I don't really broadcast I am a nudist but if it comes up the I do not hesitate to say Yes I am. I do occasionally mention it sometimes but try to determine what type of people are around, If they seem to be very prudish then I keep quite unless someone else mentions it. One way I judge is the clothing they wear, most here wear long pants and a long sleeve shirt in 100 degree weather when cutting the grass, Me I wear very short shorts and no shirt. There are a few of the neighbors who now wear shorts and short sleeve shirts, doubt they will ever change. At the local Y there are only me and two other guys who get naked and shower, and yes we all three laugh about it.
You might try mentioning your all-over tan, most folks can handle
something like that, then it's in their court as to how they
respond. Also, with hot sultry summer nights, mention sleeping with
no covers needed is another roundabout way of bringing it up.
We enjoy chatting up folks when we travel and at home. We
often, casually, mention that we enjoy getting no-stripe tans or
visit skinny-dipper beaches. That's cute and light enough
that we never get sneers or snickers. Many smile. Even
strict Baptists are not apparently offended. If they
don't pick up the hint of the conversation, we move on. On
cruises, where we know of a nude beach, we often get two or three
couples joining us for first time nude beach romps.
It was always my intent to visit with our current next door neighbors and tell them we are nudists. We're not sure if the previous owners told them but from the beginning, these new neighbors have mostly kept to themselves. They do get frequent visitors and over night guests and at one point, the one upstairs window shutters were always open with a 90% view of our backyard. Our trees hadn't grown fully so there was no way of blocking this window.
I felt that if we mentioned it to them, they may understand that we were trying to do all we could to block or minimize their view of us being naked out back but they were never really accessible enough to ever get to talk with them. One night, I was cleaning up the backyard after the grandkids had been swimming. I noticed a light go on in the neighbor's home and I looked up and saw her standing at a window topless. Our eyes met, she quickly closed the shutters and I think the opportunity to talk about our nudism was lost. They've been cordial but not friendly. We've met by chance and sat together at a table a couple of times at our local wineries and we both say, "we should get together and share a bottle of wine", but it never happens.
I think both couples are fine with the way we are as neighbors. They for sure know we spend most of our time in our backyard naked and they have given us our privacy by closing the shutters of the one window and I think they've actually put a piece of furniture in from of that window so quests can't open it. He's still somewhat friendly and will talk with me out front but she just waves and heads in the house. It's all we can ask for at this time.