It's about the process...not the destination.
Return to DiscussionsI know that sounds really "clich" and right out of a self-help book; but it does also apply to nudism.
As married men, many of us we would like nothing more than our wives to whip off their clothing after (or even before) checking in a club or resort; and then confidently walk naked into the main/pool area next to us. But focusing too much on a positive outcome (the destination) can actually turn out to be short-sighted.
Women's feelings about nudity can change over time; so it is much more important to focus on the "process", IMHO. Which encompasses things like being patient and understanding, selecting the "right" nudist venue, listening to and valuing her feedback, etc... Because at the end of the day: even if she does get naked at a club or resort, but is not feeling "quite right" about it, she is unlikely to truly embrace social nudity.
My wife and I have little "rituals"; which have been the result of focusing on the "process." On days where we go to the resort, I do all the packing; and that way she feels all she needs to do is "show up." After showering she'll often ask me "how she looks naked"; at which point I will reassure her she looks great naked and that I'm really proud of her.
When we get to the resort, we check in first; and then return to the car to undress and get our things. One the purposes for this is for my wife to "survey" the resort: see where she would like to sit, who is there, whether she recognizes anyone, etc... before getting naked. Once her mind is at ease, she is mentally prepared to leave all her clothes in the car and walk naked to the spot she has selected. The "naked walk" through the resort also serves the purpose of a "quick acclimatization"; as her body moving unconstricted reminds her how nice it feels to be naked outdoors.
She really likes this "structured" approach. There is no emphasis on nudity per se; just on the process of getting to that point. Which, in turns, gets her to a "happy naked place."
Anyway; I'm not saying anything new here. Just some random thoughts.
Yes I think it is harder for a woman.
We went to a nudist resort after a couple days She got comfortable and wanted to join it
It took her about four or five trips to walk around naked I didn't push it but she saw the other women some better some worse and felt good about herself but she still had to overcome her mother growing up telling her to stay covered a couple of ex-husbands and a few ex-boyfriends telling her how fat she was It took me some years to get her confident again.
I think our culture screams that it's bad to be naked And if you haven't been brought up with nudism It's hard to release that feeling.
I think it is harder for women as they are harder on themselves and even though we tell them how beautiful they are they think we just tell them that because we have to. Fortunately I've had some guys come up and tell her how beautiful she is when I wasn't around and it really boosted her confidence I was very thankful they did that.