Married Men With Non Nude Wives
lots of men will understand this how do we make our wives understand us
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How to help wife get over self-conscous issues
Return to DiscussionsThis point was brought up on another group/thread, and I wanted to move it to a more appropriate group.How do you help your wife to get over the fear of trying nudism because she is worried of her body being judged by others?
That's not the case with mine. She is just not interested in being around nudists (other than me). Maybe one day that will change but not likely anytime soon.
This point was brought up on another group/thread, and I wanted to move it to a more appropriate group.How do you help your wife to get over the fear of trying nudism because she is worried of her body being judged by others?
That's not the case with mine. She is just not interested in being around nudists (other than me). Maybe one day that will change but not likely anytime soon.
You're luckier than me since my wife doesn't even want me to go nude on a regular basis. I wish she'd join me and we could attend social events together but I don't think it'll ever happen. And, her attitude even curbs my chances to go to such events.
Jim Shedd
This point was brought up on another group/thread, and I wanted to move it to a more appropriate group.How do you help your wife to get over the fear of trying nudism because she is worried of her body being judged by others?
That's not the case with mine. She is just not interested in being around nudists (other than me). Maybe one day that will change but not likely anytime soon.
You're luckier than me since my wife doesn't even want me to go nude on a regular basis. I wish she'd join me and we could attend social events together but I don't think it'll ever happen. And, her attitude even curbs my chances to go to such events.
Jim Shedd
I feel for you Jim. She does have complete trust in my love for her and knows it's not about anything else. When money is involved then it becomes an issue and resorts aren't free so.... The beach is almost that's why I've only been there. Around the house is no problem except when preparing food. LOL!
This is an old topic but I think it's an important one.
To me, the first question is: "Is your wife at least willing to talk about it?" If she's a "never-nude", then you pretty much have to accept that it might be a "lost cause." It happens...
If she's willing to talk about it, the first thing is to ascertain where her self-consciousness is coming from. With my ex, it was negative self-image (I look horrible naked); and with my current wife, it was associating nudity with sex (nudity is always about sex).
Even though the "mindset" behind the self-consciousness was different, the approach I took was the same: helping them feel better about being naked. In both cases, it took months and months of persistence, communication and encouragement. For some people this can even take years: with small "breakthroughs" intermingled with setbacks.
The practical approach I took was to try to normalize non-sexual nudity. Which took the form of casual nudity: from requesting showering together to offering a nude massage afterwards; or simply trying to have a conversation while changing/undressing. Sometimes the answer was "No!" or "Get out!" But I didn't let it deter me; I just tried again later. When the answer was "Ok" or a willingness to chat, I would never fail to be encouraging or complimentary: "You really look good naked" or "isn't this enjoyable?!"
Another point is being comfortable with your own nudity. If you're constantly "hiding" from your wife, how do you expect her to be comfortable with her own nudity? Whenever I've brought up casual nudity, I've been naked myself.
In time, the small "breakthroughs" can accumulate and culminate. My ex, for example, started choosing to stay and sleep naked after her evening massage; which subsequently became more frequent. As she would wake up the next morning energized and feeling good about being nude, she began associating nudity with relaxation and well-being instead of "negative body image." That led to bigger breakthroughs, like agreeing to occasionally watch a movie nude together. Again, I always made it a point to be encouraging and try to make it as fun for her as possible (we'd watch some of her favorite rom-coms). My current wife loves board games; so I convinced her to play them with me nude - and she really enjoys it. She now doesn't see nudity as "strictly sexual"; she has learned to appreciate the intimacy of non-sexual nudity.
Both my ex and my current wife went on to experience social nudity - via "clothing-optionality." But that's a whole different story; with its own set of breakthroughs and setbacks. The first and most important steps is breaking through their negative views of nudity and self-consciousness; and I would not have brought up social nudity in either cases without first being able to ascertain they were comfortable enough being naked around me to bring up being naked around other people. My current wife is still "working on it" and has shown a willingness to socialize nude on our upcoming first nudist resort trip. My ex, after meeting other nudist women, had a big "breakthrough", got naked at a nudist event, and shed her self-consciousness.
It can definitely be a journey. And it's not going to happen without communication, perseverance and encouragement.
A partner has to want to try naturism and i think by constantly asking them to try it puts them off
By giving the person information about naturism and maybe leaving a naturism magazine so they can look at it can themselves and see the different body shapes and sizes and how happy people are to be naked
I was quite lucky that Anne wanted to go to the local naturist swim with me a week after i had went to it which was a great surprise and we have continued our journey together in naturism by going to naturist beaches abroad and more recently we joined a naturist club
Thought I'd join this group because I can relate to some of the stories I've read here.My wife Annie is sort of an in-between nudist.At first, she wanted nothing to do with my new lifestyle! She just said I needed to sit on a towel! :)Sometimes, at first it really bugged her that I was naked around the house. At times I needed to put clothes on to make her happy.The more I was nude, the more accepting she became. It certainly wasn't for her.After a year, I convinced her to go to a local clothing optional resort with me. She was only willing to go if I promised her I wouldn't bug her about undressing. After a hour of being there and chatting with some of the regulars, she loosened up a bit and took her top off.For the previous ten years, she had gone through eight different surgeries and was quite self conscious about her body.It wasn't until we tried Cypress Cove that she went all in. With the much larger crown and the variety of people, she overcame her self conscious issues and was out of her clothes within 5 minutes of being poolside. I was so proud of her. She stayed nude for most of our stay.She still is not a fan of being nude around the house during the day. I think it's more of a concern of being home alone and the possibility of people stopping by.She will read nude some times or just wear an open robe in the morning, sometimes joining me on the patio for morning coffee but she is clothed more than nude at home.She is always nude when lounging in the cooling tank! (our redneck hot tub)!She has her own comfort zone so I don't ever push the issue for her.So far, it's working well for both of us.
Could you share more about how you convinced her?
Would enjoy going to a clothing optional resort, but my wife is not interested.
Part of the problem is that she only doesn't like to be nude herself, but doesn't even want to see anyone nude except me.
Once we stayed at a guest house and found out when we got there that the hot tub was clothing optional.
Two women went in topless in g strings and it bothered her so much that she went back to our room!