Married Men With Non Nude Wives
lots of men will understand this how do we make our wives understand us
- created by peterde1
Still a non-nude wife but I've changed the dynamic of it now
Return to DiscussionsI have posted this in another group but think it very appropriate to post here as a lesson for many others maybe.
My wife doesn't care to participate in nudity but had "caught" me nude out on the balcony of our cruise ship a few times and "caught" me nude at home when she came home from a meeting a few times. But she didn't really equate that with me being a nudist. Lately I have had the privilege of visiting a friend's home for a couple of days where we (the guys) swam nude -- but not our wives. And my wife of course was fully aware of that. Then I have also openly gone to another person's home for a few hours to talk, have a beer, and to swim nude in his home pool. She didn't accompany me on these trips unfortunately but was fully aware that I was nude during those visits.
Very recently I totally fessed up with her -- I told her, yes I am a nudist. I like it because it is more comfortable. And yes I like others to see me as well as I like to see others nude; that isn't the primary reason at all but it is a nice side benefit of being nude. When we are not wearing clothing we can just concentrate on enjoying the talks and whatever event is going on. So now she knows I like being nude with others and intend of course to continue. She also knows that I enjoyed going to a nudist community/resort and plan to do it more. I then showed her my truenudist page and gave her a guided tour of my entries and pictures as well as the pages of my TN friends.
I commend to everyone who has a non-nudist wife like mine who isn't a nudist because you never opened up to her: You should open up the truth to her - eventually it will likely come up anyway, particularly if you make nudist friends socially. Scary to do so? Yep, sure is. But so worth it in the long run. It was the best decision I made recently.
Well, my wife has actually accompanied me to the Club Orient beach. That was a couple of months ago while we cruised on a ship that stopped at St Martin for a few hours. She said she would go to the beach with me but didn't promise to be nude. It only took her about 20-30 minutes to make the decision to be nude like the rest of us were.
It all got better for me, and for her, when I decided I had to open up fully with her and admit my enjoyment of being nude with others, and to show her my page here along with all my friends, their pages, and the pictures we had all posted. No, she won't let me post any of her yet unfortunately but then many of us were reluctant to be fully open to the public when we first started. Good luck to the others in this group that haven't yet gotten their spouse to join them.
My wife is rarely nude at home, but I usually am when no one beside us is there, and sometimes in the study. on the deck or in the pool when someone is in another area. She is OK with that.
I also have told her sometimes go to nude beaches, but on an occurrence by occurrence basis, I just tell her I am going to the beach, I would suspect she unerstimates how often I go to the nude beach.
My wife totally disapproves of nudism. When I asked her if she had a problem with me going around naked at home she said no. The very next day she said she thought I was sick and needed to see a therapist. Needless to say I no longer go nude when she is home. I am trying to make friends on here with other nude couples but it is difficult because most to not want to accept a friend request unless the wife is also on here. There are exceptions to this. Some wonderful couples have accepted my request and actually corresponded with me. I will keep trying and when I have enough nudist couples on here as friends I will talk to her again. I don't understand why she feels this way since her favorite uncle is a nudist.
I say see a therapist and see what happens. I discovered nudism about a year ago. Also the time I turned 40 and reviewing my life. I actually went to a therapist because I was wondering if I was acting out or something. The therapist didnt even flinch at the idea nudism. We talked about it briefly and then moved on to the stuff that made me feel that doing what I want to do was so bad. They can help you balance the comfort level of you and your wife with nudism.