Married Men With Non Nude Wives
lots of men will understand this how do we make our wives understand us
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Fiance
Return to DiscussionsFirst of all, hello to everyone. So I'm new here as well as to nudism. I live with my fiance who says she grew up around nudist camps in Florida. However, whenever I bring up the subject of going to a nudist camp or beach, she gets evasive, but at the same time she says she'd try it. I know she's self conscious, I have to admit to some of that myself, but she will rarely even sleep nude. I guess I'm a little confused with the signals she sends me.
I am sure that both of you are having confidence issues at the moment. I know leading up to my first social experience at a local swim club I was thinking all sorts of things. The truth was that it such a relaxed and easy going event and I soon forgot about the naturism bit.
It may be that because everyone was in the water from the neck down that the nudism but was less obvious - until a bum bobbed past :)
I would suggest starting off gently, being naked more and more in the house and getting your fiance used to seeing you naked. Hopefully she will join you and eventually you will both be more used to it becoming normal. Then try outdoors in the garden if you can before going further.
If there is a naturist beach near you that may be less daunting than a nudist retreat as you can just turn round and leave much easier if you don't like it
However, whenever I bring up the subject of going to a nudist camp or beach, she gets evasive, but at the same time she says she'd try it.
Sounds to me that the "idea" of nudism appeals to her; but she's hesitant to face the "reality" of social nudity; i.e being naked around naked people.
I think a C/O resort might help with that. She doesn't have to be naked there unless she want to.
However, whenever I bring up the subject of going to a nudist camp or beach, she gets evasive, but at the same time she says she'd try it.Sounds to me that the "idea" of nudism appeals to her; but she's hesitant to face the "reality" of social nudity; i.e being naked around naked people.I think a C/O resort might help with that. She doesn't have to be naked there unless she want to.
Depends on how comfortable she is about seeing people, other than you, who are nude.
My wife is not so that would not be an option for her.
What may (and I do want to emphasize the "may" because not everything is going to work for anyone) help would be going to a nudist resort on a week day - maybe even early in the morning - when there's barely anyone around.
That's how I did it with my first wife. We pretty much had the entire resort to ourselves. The idea was that she'd stay covered as she wished; and as soon as more people started showing up we'd just leave.
There was a bit of "tension" when we checked in; because the manager/owner was "Donald Ducking it" and my wife was weirded out by it a bit. But that was the only interaction we had all morning. They were a couple of other people hanging around but we were on the opposite side of the resort; quite far away from them. We had a lot of space all to ourselves.
What probably played a part in how things developed from there was the fact that nudity at home was fairly common at that point. I went nude at home a lot; her not so much although she'd occasionally join me for a bit (prior to the trip we'd watched a nudist movie naked on the couch). So she wasn't "brand new" to being naked, non-sexually, around me. And since we had the sauna and clubhouse all to ourselves; it wasn't a total stretch to get naked with me there - even if just for a short while - to enjoy the hot-tub and sauna.
The biggest thing is that she actually ended up enjoying herself. If you bring your wife and she just isn't having any fun at all, well...maybe it's a bust. My wife did; and as her anxiety went down and her oxytocin levels went up, she became less guarded. Event though we had nearly zero social experience, it was a "win."
The "social experience" did eventually come later, after a couple more "early morning week day" trips. It was simply the result of her growing comfort with nudity more than any "desire" to be around naked people. My theory is that when a person is "secure" in their own nudity; then other people's nudity becomes less "problematic." At least that's how it worked with my wife. The resort was more crowded that third day, my wife had chosen to just stay naked all morning while hiking/hanging around the resort; and she decided she was finally ready to go to the pool area. She didn't care about all the naked people anymore, she just wanted to go for a swim.
As I said before, this happens differently for everyone. My current wife had the same hang-ups about seeing naked people; but within an hour of arriving at the resort, she was naked walking into the pool area. Someone else might need a few tries. Another person might find it just too absolutely boring/weird/uncomfortable.
- I guess I'm a little confused with the signals she sends me.
This site is replete with married guys w/non nudist wives. Some of whom knew what they were getting into. Many of whom did not. Congrats on your engagement. But do NOT get married until you have a full understanding of the signals. ..... and then make sure it's part of the prenup agreement. Complete with her signature. And good luck with that. You've been warned! lol!