Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
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Hetero and gay men bonding.
Return to DiscussionsOne thing that I have enjoyed in naturist and some other clothing-optional settings is the greater openness among many of the hetero-identified guys. I think many of us on the gay/bi areas of the relational spectrum may have grown up around guys who were hostile or emotionally unavailable.
I really value the hetero guys and couples that are friendly towards me and willing to be open and unafraid. I have known hetero guys who would just as willingly meet me to eat or grab a beer at a gay establishment as a more hetero one. I always laugh at the big bugaboo in the Don't Ask Don't Tell debate about "showering with gays" because I have known plenty of hetero guys who, if they were hit on or ogled in the showers, would smile broadly and say "in your dreams, Fella!".
I've known some very sweet men in the past who were not afraid to be open with their emotions and affection, including physical affection when nude. For me, having grown up in the '60s and '70s, this has been very healing to have this kind of acceptance and friendship.
I'd be interested to hear from other guys about their experiences.