Male Bonding2
For those who like to explore the concept and dynamics of male bonding. Men are socialized in different ways in different societies, and so many men would like to have close male friendships, yet after spending time establishing a career, primary relationship and live in general, find themselves without close male friends. Many of us want male friends with whom we can share openly without...
- created by AZdesertman
Male Contact
Return to DiscussionsSad that in the southern USA, physical contact between men is taboo. With all sexual acts excluded, there is so much joy in body-to-body physical contact with another man, especially for those of us that did not receive affection from our fathers. Nude contacts are even more special. I enjoy simply being hugged and embraced.
Yes, there's a lot to be said for the power of touch which is both relaxing and arousing. In the Midwest, too, we associate nudity and arousal with sexuality, but looking at it closer, it doesn't make much sense. If I am naked and aroused from a cat or the warm sun, does that make me felinesexual or solarsexual? No, just a dude with a boner. So enjoy your naked skin time despite what your immediate culture thinks! Don't settle for labels and don't feel like your identity has to fall into some roles ascribed to behaviors some focus on. Show up naked and shining like the sun and you're all good.
It is sad but so true. I'm in one of the most conservative parts of the southern US and some men are even afraid to shake hands as a greeting. You can tell the ones that are the most inhibited by their limp handshake and quick withdrawal. The worst ones cant even make eye contact while your hands are touching.
Even when you can get guys naked they are afraid to touch at all. Strange times indeed but it should not be that way.
Well, I can say from experience. Its not about ethnic background. I grew up where my uncles, cousins, brothers all hugged. Its ones personal experience and comfort level that makes them warming or cold. That is all my opinion, can't really say for sure what other people experience. I still hug and kiss my dad when I see him. Theres nothing sexual there for sure.
I really love the way you put this, we can't control our arousal/erections, we can only control what we do with them.
I do wish many people / places would take this to heart. I see too many instances where a male is made to feel shame for getting an erection, whether it is from arousal, a need to urinate, or "just because".
It would be perfectly natural for the friction of skin on skin contact during a hug to lead to an erection. I'd be complimented if another male got hard around me.
I just wish more nudists would ease up on the subject of erections and just acknowledge them and let them be. As long as no lines are crossed (no means no and all that) then let them be. After all, women aren't scolded for having perky nipples or moist vaginas, so why stigmatize the men. Especially if it's only other men around.Njbearman;When a man is married, his uncontrolled erection where his blood fills his most private body part and it becomes aroused and stiff due to his being attracted to his wife is a wonderful compliment to her.We should not control our arousal and erections. There is nothing wrong with an erection and no reason to be embarrassed to have one.We control our behavior.