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Penis Talk
Return to DiscussionsSo, what is the etiquette when naked regarding talking about your, or someone else's penis? This group has explored complimenting each other, but what about general penis talk.
I ask for a reason. A friend of mine says it is a no, no, because it can induce erections. Personally, I like showing and looking, and talking about the penis is part of that process for me.
Your thoughts.
IMHO nudism is about doing things you would normally do, only naked. I guess that would include conversation. So if you're in a situation where you wouldn't normally talk about someone's body parts while clothed there's no reason to do so while naked. More important another person's penis, balls, ass, breasts, etc. are no more unusual while naked than their belly button, ears, elbows, nose, feet, etc.
So what is the problem? Men have a penis and women have a vagina. Now you know that women talk about their vaginas, so why do men need to be embarrassed to talk about their penises. It is only natural.Now with the music videos where all the guys are grabbing their crotches today, why can't we nudist men grab or touch or even hold our penis? For me it just feels good to hold onto the boys while they are in sun light. If you or another man gets an erection from watching or touching so what. Besides it is a great way to start a conversation.
IMHO it all depends on the setting, the situation , and the individuals involved. One rule of thumb is if you think t will bring unwanted embarrassment to the other person, don't say or do it.
Couldn't have said it better myself!
The first time I went to a nudist party, I was a bit nervous...not ridiculously so, but somewhat. I knew the host, but none of the other 20 or so guys who attended, so I probably would have been a little nervous meeting that many new people at once anyhow.
When I was introduced to one guy, we shook hands, then he looked me up and down, and said "Nice one!" while looking right at my cock. It was the perfect ice breaker for me in the situation. I can see plenty of circumstances where that would NOT be appropriate, but this guy judged the situation to a T!
In relation to the proper etiquette, I'd say that the nudist fraternity would deem such topics as something sexually derivative because I do not believe most members of the fraternity are truly open to the values of what nudism represents. That is to be able to openly communicate about such matter that encompass nudism, which of course is the body in general. Most avoid topics of anything to do with genitalia because in fear of being shunned and rejected by whoever they are with at any given time. Rejection plays a huge part on our psyche because we simply like to to be liked.I personally have always tried to be open to the world around me, the way people think, act and what they are comfortable to talk about. As Zaphod has articulated well in his response, the penis is just one of many parts of the body and to be a nudist I feel we should be able to discuss it at length without any fear repercussions their after, such as being branded a pervert and not a real nudist. It amazes me how such a small part of the body (as a percentage of the overall body it is really quite small) causes so many issues with in the nudist fraternity. Perhaps because we have identified ourselves by it for eons, our sexual prowess, the ability to please the other or as I said above, to be accepted, it has in a way, become bigger than what it is. We cannot deny too, that the penis does hold a certain attraction and interest to many people (male and female) and I believe it is because of how dynamic they all are. The ability to change from completely flaccid to totally erect and all states in between. No other part of the human body does this so no wonder it cannot be ignored.For me personally, I give myself time after meeting someone (in real life or in chat) and gauge what type of person they are before I launch into anything remotely seen as personal. My brain however, does not see anything to do with the body as personal.
Totally with you, sums up my own thoughts. Body language is often as much a clue in the nudist world as in the textiles eg just l wouldnt make a point to comment on a person's facial features,large nose, ears, hair etc unless in to playing power game's, neither would l comment on on other parts of another nude persons anatomy if l didnt know them or werent invited to.
Ive been in a couple of men's groups where the topic was to talk about your penis and your relationship with it and found it very enlightening and freeing. That comes from growing up in a society quite repressed about the body in general from my side. Focusing on the penis (or cock as I prefer to call it) and repressing it are both signs of objectifying it. By talking about it more as a part of us we integrate and accept it as just another part of our complex identity. That's not to say it's just another elbow or wrist, because it has many dimensions to it, and so do we as individuals.
So, what is the etiquette when naked regarding talkingabout your, or someone else's penis?
I think it's exactly the same as talking about your or someone
else's penis when everyone is clothed. If the only real
difference between textiles and nudists is the clothing, why would
our conversations be any different?
As for erections, the position that they are bad or inappropriate is based on the assumption that erections mean the erect man wants to have sex with whoever happens to be around them when they bone up. That is a wrong assumption. Erections happen for many reasons some of them completely non-sexual. If anyone should know this, nudists should.
At one of my Guy Camaraderie naked cocktail parties, we sorta had an impromptu penis segment. We were all standing around the kitchen naked and having drinks, and someone brought up foreskin restoration. Some of us were straight, some gay, and some bi, but we were like whatever. We talked about that for a good while, being circumcised vs. uncircumcised, I noticed we all compared each other's penises pretty much even if briefly, and it was actually very relaxed. It was a great party without any expectations other than being able to hang out naked and talk about guy stuff like that =]
Please feel free to check out Guy Camaraderie here: https://www.truenudists.com/groups/6496
If you're at a nude site, or website, and nude, around nude people, nude guys, so, whats the matter about looking at other guys penises? All men is curious about other man's penises. I look at and don't care if others do, and yes, we can talk about penis, hard or not.