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Work buddy
Return to DiscussionsHey guys,
I'm sure this has been brought up before, but I was wondering about a new buddy of mine. I don't get the chance to hang out with him very often (but definitely enjoy it when I do). He's a stoner kinda guy in his off hours and, I was just wondering, is there any way to sort of...hint around...the subject of hanging naked?
I do work with him so I wouldn't want things to get awkward. Still, he does seem like the type who maaaay be into it. What do you guys think?
Certainly true. I find it hard to be the first one to take his clothes off (unless I'm utterly shitfaced, of course). Still though, mentioning it is a bit tricky too, especially since his roommate is always around. Just need the right way to phrase it, eh? :) Many thanks for the reply!
Another option would be to invite him to a nude event. For instance I casually mentioned it to one of my textile buddies how I went to a nude beach and he was intrigued to invited him along one time. Once we were there I felt more open about talking about that part of my life and how freebie it felt to be nude and he had agreed. We hadn't hung out nude outside of that but he did come to the beach with me several times since. That could be another approach.
I've had sucess in breaking the ice when a bud comes to the house I answer the door "just out of shower or hot tub" answer the door nude and say excuse my state of undress , let them in and walk away to put on my slinky shorts.
Seeing my retreat at the door with a rear view seems to set the conversation about my preference to be not dressed when ever possible .
I've had sucess in breaking the ice when a bud comes to the house I answer the door "just out of shower or hot tub" answer the door nude and say excuse my state of undress , let them in and walk away to put on my slinky shorts.
Seeing my retreat at the door with a rear view seems to set the conversation about my preference to be not dressed when ever possible .
A few times like when my ac repair friend stopped to look at my ac I did that. Never got dressed and he seemed kind of happy to see me lol.
I've had sucess in breaking the ice when a bud comes to the house I answer the door "just out of shower or hot tub" answer the door nude and say excuse my state of undress , let them in and walk away to put on my slinky shorts.Seeing my retreat at the door with a rear view seems to set the conversation about my preference to be not dressed when ever possible .A few times like when my ac repair friend stopped to look at my ac I did that. Never got dressed and he seemed kind of happy to see me lol.
I'd honestly be too worried to do something like that. I don't mind answering in some light shorts, but otherwise, I'm too worried about what might happen if they DON'T like it. I live close to a school so if I get put on a list, it would make me have to move out of the house I just moved into.
I have the same problem breaking the ice and fearing for my reputation.
An option for you may be to ask if he would be interested in joining a gym to get a little more fit. Gyms don't only mean lifting and muscle. Cardio is very important and everyone should do some sort of that anyway. If there is an interest in that, try a guest or trial membership. Watch his reaction as you change into workout clothes. Walk naked to the shower with pride and if the option for naked steams or sauna exist, take advantage of that. That could open the door to more activity outside of the locker room.
How about just asking if there is any interest in joining you at a nude beach or spa? If the answer is yes, talk more about nudity in general. If no, then tread lightly on the subject.
An acquaintance recently returned home from vacation to an area I knew had a nude beach. So, I asked if he happened to go to it. To my surprise his answer was yes. I took the opportunity to expand on that and told him that I am always looking for similar vacation destinations. He opened up and told me of former nude vacations that are good destinations.- I had no idea he was that open on the subject.
I wish you luck and understand your situation.
1nakedfarmer I really like the gym idea. That's a great 'no pressure' way to strip with a buddy. Many thanks for the ideas!
I actually haven't talked to the dude much since I posted this, even though we only work a few yards from each other :) Hopefully now with tax season over we'll get some time to hang out again.
Stoner kind of guys aren't necessarily conventional. Id just say something like this: It's not illegal but it can be awkward. I like to hang out naked and feel more free in my birthday suit. Are you all right with that? By not demanding anything from him you are giving permission to be himself and asking for his in return.