Given the starting point of a textile upbringing there is no doubt that clothing is intended to be sexually stimulating. As I have gained a better understanding of true naturism I feel that whilst stripping for sex has been stimulating I now believe it is not respecting the other person. Sex is not, fir me now, about stopping my partner. Could say that is a relief since there is seldom any clothing tk strip. But I find that as we have become more understanding of our true selves sex is not about nudity. Sex is about sharing, loving, feeling.
Before I tried naturism when by chance my wife and I came across a CO beach I had felt that nudity without a sexual side was impossible. However in reality on a beach sex is simply not a factor. Of course you notice others just as they may notice you but the situation is simply not sexual. There is no difference to a gathering of clothed people.
I had felt that nudity without a sexual side was impossible. However in reality on a beach sex is simply not a factor. Of course you notice others just as they may notice you but the situation is simply not sexual. There is no difference to a gathering of clothed people.
I agree, and anyone thinking differently, should stay away from public nudism.
I was talking to the guy who does my waxing about this. He said that he becomes indifferent to nudity as he sees it on most of his clients. His business is strictly professional, no rub and tug. This being the case he has to switch his brain from business to personal when he is out socially.
If you have a few local nudists, invite them over for beer and pizza or something. Ive done that and the first times were surprised how normal guy it was. Tell him people are more open and friendly without clothes, and if he's afraid of becoming erect no one will care since it's just a sign of good blood flow.
This issue is one that comes up often and there IS an answer for your friend. Sadly in the repressed society we live in many people are brought up starved of contact with the human body. So men often suffer from a form of stunted sexual development where any instance of normal nudity triggers similarly basic responses that a burger would have if they had been starved for months. They want to grab it and wolf it down with nothing beyond the Neanderthal in their thinking. I'm at the very liberal end of the spectrum in my attitudes to sex etc, but I'm also a genuine naturist who isn't looking for sex when I meet with other naturists. Im looking for much more! Let me explain: In my opinion equating nudism with sex is missing the point of BOTH. And if we have a developed understanding and truly positive attitude to both nudism and sex the need to separate them evaporates in the warm sunshine of greater understanding. If a grown man ( or woman ) has an understanding of sex that is so limited as to think that it's so basic as two naked bodies banging each other ( sorry for the bluntness! ) it shows that they need to learn that sex has much more to offer when there's greater subtlety, understanding, skill and when it's an act engaged in by two well-formed adults who express an attraction to, and appreciation of, a whole person in their sexual activity - whose love-making is a LOT more than just using another person's body to masturbate with. Only then can he ever hope to form a meaningful, longer term sexual, loving relationship which can bring much greater sexual and emotional joy. Similarly, our shared nudity expresses and celebrates our entire humanity - not just our braveness in letting our 'bits' be seen! In being nude together we celebrate our lives - all races, ages, sexual orientations, creeds etc stand united in their magnificent humanity - unashamed and openly beautiful. To participate knowingly, joyfully in that is much more satisfying than a juvenile turn-on! So, in my opinion, paradoxically your friend needs to consider developing rather than limiting his contact with the human body - not least with his own - and should consider learning more about sex and sexuality....including his own!! A naked woman ( or man ) can of course be beautiful and attractive. But nudism / naturism isn't just about naked bodies - it's about stripping away all other kinds of negative, limiting conditioning - about revealing the whole person - perhaps it can ultimately offer your friend much more than basic, limited, juvenile titilation and bring him to a greater understanding that'll elevate his sex life and all of his life to greater heights.
Very well put!
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