Avoid flaming!
A previous posting on this matter has disappeared along with the first "TN needs moderators" group, so I'm writing this here:
Flaming is an offense for which TT1 can kick us out. Unfortunately, it's also an offense that is easily committed if we're not careful. If we get drawn into a flame war, we're no better than those who have baited us, no matter how good our intentions may have been.
Continue to complain, but try to not make it personal. Instead of, "You're a scumbag!", try "You are violating the rules of the site as clearly stated on this page (add the required link)".
If the person insults you,DON'T insult back. DO make a copy of the insult and flag that person. Let her or him have to defend her- or himself.And keep whatever evidence you have. It may come in handy.
A previous posting on this matter has disappeared along with the first "TN needs moderators" group, so I'm writing this here: Flaming is an offense for which TT1 can kick us out. Unfortunately, it's also an offense that is easily committed if we're not careful. If we get drawn into a flame war, we're no better than those who have baited us, no matter how good our intentions may have been. Continue to complain, but try to not make it personal. Instead of, "You're a scumbag!", try "You are violating the rules of the site as clearly stated on this page (add the required link)". If the person insults you,DON'T insult back. DO make a copy of the insult and flag that person. Let her or him have to defend her- or himself.And keep whatever evidence you have. It may come in handy.
Excellent Gerry, Thank you!
Jen
Excelent post Gerry. I have to also compliment you in that even when we have disagreed on a subject, you have always been polite and simply stated why you feel the way that you do.
Thanks. Sometimes I have to clamp down hard on my tongue (or do the equivalent to my typing fingers), but it pays off in the end. I'd much rather agree to disagree and move on than engage in what may turn out to be a waste of time as much on my part as on that of my vis--vis.
Also, I'm always reminded of the story of two brothers who were in business together and had a falling out. They didn't speak to each other for about 20 years. One day, they both showedup for a relative's wedding, started talking and eventually realised they couldn't remember why they broke up in the first place! That was the end of their estrangement.
Problems are rarely permanent and weshouldn't let relatively trivial issues get in the way of friendships.
SERIOUSLY needs a re-read by far too many.
Too many threads start out interesting, and by the next day have had 17 pages of "I;m smarter than you" flame wars against imagined trolls.
Lately it seems we have trolls trolling for opposing trolls, just so they can have their little flame wars, dominating the forums at the expense of everyone else, world-wide.
Gerry got it right then, and it's still right today, and likely even more-so tomorrow !
SERIOUSLY needs a re-read by far too many. Too many threads start out interesting, and by the next day have had 17 pages of "I;m smarter than you" flame wars against imagined trolls. Lately it seems we have trolls trolling for opposing trolls, just so they can have their little flame wars, dominating the forums at the expense of everyone else, world-wide. Gerry got it right then, and it's still right today, and likely even more-so tomorrow !
What he said.
Jen
A previous posting on this matter has disappeared along with the first "TN needs moderators" group, so I'm writing this here: Flaming is an offense for which TT1 can kick us out. Unfortunately, it's also an offense that is easily committed if we're not careful. If we get drawn into a flame war, we're no better than those who have baited us, no matter how good our intentions may have been. Continue to complain, but try to not make it personal. Instead of, "You're a scumbag!", try "You are violating the rules of the site as clearly stated on this page (add the required link)". If the person insults you,DON'T insult back. DO make a copy of the insult and flag that person. Let her or him have to defend her- or himself.And keep whatever evidence you have. It may come in handy.
Really a great post, Gerry. Miss your common sense posts here on the forum.
Jen
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