Everyone is different. For me, andI strongly believe, many others on this site it is is not a sexualthing. I just don't like clothes, they areuncomfortable and I just feel better being nude.Being here, going to our local resort, or onclothing optional vacations I find people that are more open andrelaxed than just about anywhere else. I havegone into the chat but it's not something I'm really interested inso am rarely there. I'd rather layout nude inmy yard and enjoy the sun etc. My wife is notreally into it but will go with me on a clothing optional vacationor to our local resort periodically and does join in but it's notreally her thing. Having been with me andjoining in she understands the comfort and openness and how it isnot sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his drivinghis interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying itwith him to understand before making judgements would be best.When I say try, go to a clothing optionalresort where you do not have to disrobe until/unless you arecomfortable but him can enjoy being nude. Youmay realize no one cares, etc and decide to join in at least oncein a while, or maybe not. Only with moreinformation from him and your own observations can you really gainan understanding.
Thank you very much for all of the responses. I appreciate
everyone's perspectives. Honestly, I'm not sure of my husband's
intentions. I would like to believe that he is a true nudist (no
pun intended), but - he is secretive about chatting and has even
lied about it. It also seems that he seeks out women. Perhaps, I
would be less apprehensive if he were open and honest about it. Who
knows. Some of the profile pics that I have seen are questionable
(spread eagles, really?). I understand there may be many here for
the wrong reasons, I just hope that my husband is not one of them.
(And, that's another issue altogether) Anyway, thank you again.
Kindest regards to you all.
"wifeofanudist",
In addition to what "ausmanvic" had to say ... sometimes nudist men
with reluctant spouses like to talk to nudist women to try and get
a female nudist's perspective on what he could do to get his wife
to try it or ... what he's doing wrong that's keeping her
away. I try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt before
I throw them under the bus. I'm hoping that this is what your
husband is doing, chatting with other women on here but ... be that
as it may, he should not be lying to you and should let you read
his posts, allow you to sit in on chat and above all ... talk to
you openly about nudism and what it really means to him.
He could be looking for something you aren't willing to give ...
simple communication about something he's interested in. In
the beginning of our internet nudism, Di thought the same things
about me as you are wondering about your husband. I
gave her my passwords, showed her the links to log on and look at
our profile page. Yes ... "our" profile page. Even
though she didn't have any interest in internet social nudism and
still doesn't, she at least knows of I'm doing and understood what
I was looking for ... reluctant spouse advice from others that were
going through the same thing and may have been successful in
turning their reluctant spouses interest around.
My wife was a reluctant social nudist. 20 years of home,
patio, backyard nudism passed before she agreed to visit the nude
beach. After that, there was no turning back. There had
been some ups and downs due to medical issues but those are behind
us and she attributes social nudism to finding our closest
friends. It's not easy for some and not easy for most women,
to agree and participate in social nudism. It's a huge step
but before that can happen, nudism has to start at home and if
there is some compromise that can happen between you both, maybe
the secretiveness will disappear. Best of luck!
;-)
I hope you have gleaned a lot of information from the above posts; they appear to answer most all of your questions. I do want to add one item to your list that may help from the comment, "I also don't understand why
would you want to "chat" nude? Could this be a sexual
fetish?" As a relatively new nudist, I have only been in chat for a few years. I would normally be nude while typing away, but occasionally not. During one post, a fellow nudist commented something along the lines of 'we all profess to be nudists by our participation on this site, but some here are always clothed'. That was enough for me, I enjoy being nude as much as practical and am nude pretty much 100% of the time on this site. It's just a personal thing, but to be true to the ideals a necessary one. I'm sure this is not practiced by all the folks here on this forum but do believe it is from the majority. I believe your husband may be one of the majority...I'd take it at face value and press on. I wish you well. John.
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