Help me understand nudism!
Hello! Five years ago, my husband said that he would like to be a nudist. However, I am not comfortable being nude in front of others. And, quite honestly, I don't like the idea of another woman seeing my husband naked. I wouldn't mind him being nude by himself or with me (in the privacy of our home), but I'm not sure I like the idea of him being nude in a group setting. Do you think it's possible for a marriage to survive if a spouse has no interest in nudism? I also don't understand why would you want to "chat" nude? Could this be a sexual fetish?I appreciate any responses! I am simply trying to understand and educate myself on nudism. Help, please! Many thanks!
Nudism is a personal thing, if you enjoy being nude and like doing things in the nude then go enjoy it. If you have never run around the house naked then maybe you are just not into it. I would encourage you to tryit but you should not have to force yourself. There is nothing sexual about wanting to share our nudist activities with others. Maybe you will like it and just never had the chance
This should help:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Naturism
www.AANR.com
https://dictionary.reference.com/browse/nudism?s=t
Thanks for your response. I have tried it and it just isn't for me. To each their own! I am having trouble coming to terms with my spouse chatting online and/or meeting other women who are also nude. If it were only men, I would be much more comfortable. Then, it would be clear to me it was not sexual in any way.Nudism is a personal thing, if you enjoy being nude andlike doing things in the nude then go enjoy it. If youhave never run around the house naked then maybe you are just notinto it. I would encourage you to tryit but you shouldnot have to force yourself. There is nothing sexualabout wanting to share our nudist activities withothers. Maybe you will like it and just never had thechance
Everyone is different. For me, and I strongly believe, many
others on this site it is is not a sexual thing. I just don't
like clothes, they are uncomfortable and I just feel better being
nude. Being here, going to our local resort, or on clothing
optional vacations I find people that are more open and relaxed
than just about anywhere else. I have gone into the chat but
it's not something I'm really interested in so am rarely there.
I'd rather layout nude in my yard and enjoy the sun etc.
My wife is not really into it but will go with me on a
clothing optional vacation or to our local resort periodically and
does join in but it's not really her thing. Having been with
me and joining in she understands the comfort and openness and how
it is not sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.
I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his driving
his interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying it
with him to understand before making judgements would be best.
When I say try, go to a clothing optional resort where you do
not have to disrobe until/unless you are comfortable but him can
enjoy being nude. You may realize no one cares, etc and
decide to join in at least once in a while, or maybe not.
Only with more information from him and your own observations
can you really gain an understanding.
Dear Wife of a Nudist,
What you are feeling is not at all unusual. I hope that I can offer a few words of encouragement that will help ease your mind. The first thing you must realize is that there is nothing wrong with you. Many women in your circumstances would start blaming themselves and feel that they are some how inadequate. This is usually the furtherest thing from the truth. I know from your letter that you love your husband and I'm sure he loves you as well. Do not let this thing cause a division in your marriage. As a nudist, I know what your husband is seeking and believe me, it is not sex. I'm sure he is very happy with what he already has. I believe that the one thing most social nudists are seeking is a feeling of warmth and openness that you will find no where else in society. It is a feeling of being able to interact with our fellow human beings with all of the guilts and hang-ups, heaped upon us by society, stripped away. We all have an innate desire to be open and honest with others but society and social norms always get in the way. There is a saying in nudism that says: It's hard to put on airs with others when you're nude. This means our real selves come out. We are who we are and with nudism can be what we are. I honestly believe that you would have more to worry about if your husband went to a bar and talked to women there than if he went to a nude resort and talked to nudist women. I'm sure your husband would like you to join him in his nudist activities, but that is something that you have to decide for yourself on your own schedule, if ever. We all want our loved ones to enjoy all the pleasures and joys that we feel, but like love, it cannot be forced. My wife and I have been married going on 45 years now and there is one rule that we have always kept. It worked for us and it may work for you. We could always do anything that we desired to do but we always let the other one know what we were planning and we always let the other one know what happened. In other words we had no secrets and there never was anything that needed to be kept secret. Let you husband know that he can always be open and honest with you. I hope this helps. DesertRat.
Everyone is different. For me, and I strongly believe, manyothers on this site it is is not a sexual thing. I just don'tlike clothes, they are uncomfortable and I just feel better beingnude. Being here, going to our local resort, or on clothingoptional vacations I find people that are more open and relaxedthan just about anywhere else. I have gone into the chat butit's not something I'm really interested in so am rarely there.I'd rather layout nude in my yard and enjoy the sun etc.My wife is not really into it but will go with me on aclothing optional vacation or to our local resort periodically anddoes join in but it's not really her thing. Having been withme and joining in she understands the comfort and openness and howit is not sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his drivinghis interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying itwith him to understand before making judgements would be best.When I say try, go to a clothing optional resort where you donot have to disrobe until/unless you are comfortable but him canenjoy being nude. You may realize no one cares, etc anddecide to join in at least once in a while, or maybe not.Only with more information from him and your own observationscan you really gain an understanding.
Thank you very much for all of the responses. I appreciate everyone's perspectives. Honestly, I'm not sure of my husband's intentions. I would like to believe that he is a true nudist (no pun intended), but - he is secretive about chatting and has even lied about it. It also seems that he seeks out women. Perhaps, I would be less apprehensive if he were open and honest about it. Who knows.
Some of the profile pics that I have seen are questionable (spread eagles, really?). I understand there may be many here for the wrong reasons, I just hope that my husband is not one of them. (And, that's another issue altogether)
Anyway, thank you again. Kindest regards to you all.
Hi Wife of a nudist,My wife was also very sceptical of my opening
up to her I was a nudist when we were long distance dating.
She like you was unsure within her own mind as to my
real intent and what being a nudist entailed. She doesn't frequent
this web site but has read to various post I think she would
benefit from reading.
Re her getting nude for the relaxation side of it took her a long
time to accept, but now over time she to has accepted how free in
mind body and soul she feels when nude. She also cherishes her
clothed time too.
Just this morning I was standing on the bedroom balcony at
the back of the house we are staying in Vietnam. As the balcony is
visible from the street and houses a few blocks over i was wearing
a towel around my waste and she came out to be with me in just
nicks. That just shows how well she has adopted the life style.
Our success can been put down to mutual trust and open discussion,
there is also no pressure applied to my wife to get nude if we are
in the company with others , and she has been happy to strip off
and join in the various activities.
I note your reluctance to try the lifestyle yourself, but you
might feel differently if you try some nude time when you are on
your own just to help you get a feeling for it so you can
understand your hubby more. If your hubby is a true nudist all and
good but its not good if he is just a vouyer and in it for his kicks. talk to him and explain your concerns also show him these responses.
Wish you all the best. K & T.
Here's a link to another excellent article for wives of nudist men.
https://www.travelites.info/brochure.html
"We have never met, but I am taking the liberty to write you because I understand that your significant other has become interested in nudism or clothes-free recreation. You are wondering whether or not to share in this. My husband and I are nudists, and like you, we both experienced all the concerns and uncertainties the first time we tried it. All the vague fears and worries I fretted about proved groundless. I would like to help you experience and become comfortable with this lifestyle. I hope you will let me try."
Everyone is different. For me, and I strongly believe, manyothers on this site it is is not a sexual thing. I just don'tlike clothes, they are uncomfortable and I just feel better beingnude. Being here, going to our local resort, or on clothingoptional vacations I find people that are more open and relaxedthan just about anywhere else. I have gone into the chat butit's not something I'm really interested in so am rarely there.I'd rather layout nude in my yard and enjoy the sun etc.My wife is not really into it but will go with me on aclothing optional vacation or to our local resort periodically anddoes join in but it's not really her thing. Having been withme and joining in she understands the comfort and openness and howit is not sexual for me thus trusts me just as I trust her.I have no idea what your relationship is like or what his drivinghis interest, but I can say open discussion and at least trying itwith him to understand before making judgements would be best.When I say try, go to a clothing optional resort where you donot have to disrobe until/unless you are comfortable but him canenjoy being nude. You may realize no one cares, etc anddecide to join in at least once in a while, or maybe not.Only with more information from him and your own observationscan you really gain an understanding.
Thank you very much for all of the responses. I appreciate everyone's perspectives. Honestly, I'm not sure of my husband's intentions. I would like to believe that he is a true nudist (no pun intended), but - he is secretive about chatting and has even lied about it. It also seems that he seeks out women. Perhaps, I would be less apprehensive if he were open and honest about it. Who knows.
Some of the profile pics that I have seen are questionable (spread eagles, really?). I understand there may be many here for the wrong reasons, I just hope that my husband is not one of them. (And, that's another issue altogether)
Anyway, thank you again. Kindest regards to you all.I can see why you are questioning. The open and honest (and understanding) is a two way street. If you are open honest and understanding with him he might open up. It is possible that he hides it because he thinks you will be mad or not understand (assuming it is just plain nudism). He also may be wishing that you join him and at the very least being understanding. Talking openly, honestly, understandingly, and with absolutely no judgement/anger and/or surprising him by being nude at home with him a bit could turn where he is looking.
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