Bi Question
This is a sincere question. I'm not trying to stir anything up, just trying to understand. I'm new to male-male relationships, so some of my confusion may be due to my naivete. Your patience in considering this question and providing any insight is greatly appreciated in that regard.
I know the textbook definition, but the usage confuses me. What do people mean when they say they are bi-curious? I rarely approach anyone on these sites, even if I find them attractive. Sometimes tho, I find myself thinking, "you're curious? Need help exploring?" although I still don't act on my impulses. I wouldn't want to offend anyone or come across as predatory, even if I got the nerve up just to flirt a little.
Could someone give me some insight into what people really mean when using that phrase. The idea of that being the hip thing to say, even if they don't mean it, came to mind too. To appear progressive (or whatever the current buzz word is) they say bi-curious but don't mean it and definitely don't want another man to hit on them.
Don't hesitate to consider a bi-curious guy for friendship if you're interested in male-male exploration. It's not an especially hip thing to declare, so I doubt if people are describing themselves that way to be fashionable. Speaking as a gay man (clinically bisexual, socially and culturally 100% gay) I don't generally make contact with "bi-curious" guys, because I don't need the drama.
Interesting point about being sentient creatures. In my mind that brings up the possibility of having same-sex interactions not because there is ever a sexual attraction, but because of the emotional bond and an intense desire for the greatest intimacy possible with that person. Two otherwise straight guys having sex with each other and no other males nor any attraction to another male would be pretty damn special. Women have one-time one-person attraction like that and are lesbian just for the duration of the relationship. Seems like the same could be true among two men.
I meant to mention as an example of that previous post that I think that was the kind of relationship Frank Ocean was getting at when disclosing the same-sex affair he had earlier in life. I may be mistaken tho; I didn't read up on it in detail. If someone else did they can correct me. Seems like he left the relationship when he felt he was being taken advantage of / that he was the only one actively working to make it work.
Oh, I kept thinking there was another example or two. I'm thinking that phenom may have been what was going on in the sauna with Jim Bakker and one of his staffers. Or more recently Bishop Eddie Long and the young men he took advantage of. On Long's side of things I think he was predatory, and I wish he had suffered for abusing his position of power, but on the side of the young men I get the impression they were otherwise functioning perfectly well as heterosexual men. Their desire for a more intimate relationship with their mentor is what led them to engage in what they did. There was even a commitment ceremony when they each were given rings symbolizing their special bond with Long. I can't remember the details, but I think each young man had their own private ceremony with him and they did not know others were experiencing the same. That example is not a healthy one since it was one-sided, but if what the underlings felt and experienced was felt and experienced by an equal then this one-time one-person instance of same-sex union could occur. Anyone agree or disagree? Know of a better example or a counter-example?
Yes, the labels are confusing or misleading and definitely too narrowing. That is why I refuse to check those boxes on social sites, that, and it's not a strangers business. I will accept the label of "human" and the full scope that entails. If someone asks, i say I don't discriminate based on gender.
I must dis-agree with some on here - to me Bi-sexual means a guy likes having FULL sex with either a guy or a woman/Bi-curious means - playing with cocks and oral only/ Not full penetration.
Sounds like you're delving into Clintonesque definitions of sex. To me, if sexual arousal and orgasm occurs, it's sex. Would the bi-curious in that definition, not do full penetration with women as well?
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