hey guys
Bonding only occurs when you're in constant contact with one another. This can't barely be achieved via the internet, as bonding means more than just that, It means mate-ship for an extended time. When do we experience anything, like mate-ship...when we never meet in person and have nil interaction. For example I have been going to naked yoga classes and never was able to make friends with anyone, Why? same thing, same everything. So why this group of bonding? and bonding how?
I suppose, everyone of you will avoid this post, because this is direct, as can be to the issue no matter, what.
No mates, no bonding, as simple as such. At the end we will have wasted our energies in wanting to achieve, what we're looking for.
I agree with what you're saying mate. One must meet and spend time together to build a strong bond. I do believe a bond can be maintained after meeting via the Internet for a period but I'm not sure that it would last long. What do others think?
Bonding has to start with a first step. If does not just happen and we should not dismiss this forum as providing an opportunity for those initial contacts. That said, why do,many send friend requests with no intention of communicating, much less even on a first name basis . Worse still, why do so many even bother to be on a forum with no intention of contributing. Enough of that hobby horse and back to the subject of bindingng. What you contribute is directly proportional to the rewards on offer.
For what its worth, the first step in bonding is to break the shyness of talking with strangers. Some guys can do it easily, others less so. Like social nudity, a first step is required. Talking and common interests will start a bond growing, but like a plant, it needs watering and a little effort.
I agree that web sites like TN are great for meeting other guys with similar interests, but then you need to take the initiative and take the next step to meet guys in person. I met many great guys around the world via the old HON site, and was fortunate enough to meet and stay with many of them during my travels around the world. It also helps if you offer to meet or host other guys when they are visiting your locale, and perhaps organising a local gathering so guys can meet each other. I've done that a few times as well. Our local naked yoga group is very social. In fact we are having a naked dinner tomorrow night. :-))
Of the many Australians members of TN, let alone those who may live in proximity to each other, so few of us actually meet, let alone bond. Of course there is the issue of mutual rapport and because a number of folk are interested in one topic doesn't necessarily translate into liking, let alone bonding with, one another.
As one who does not initiate meeting or even chatting with others easily there is the tension between wanting to connect and in a way, fearing to connect, or maybe its the fear of being ignored or rebuffed. I for one do not have any close male friends outside of my work and I am sure I am not alone in this. Hopefully more of the many TN members will begin to open in to forums such as this one as a first step that may ultimately begin the exciting journey of acquaintance, to friendship, to bonding.
Just some rambling thoughts that hopefully might lead to more discussion on this important topic.
Joel.
Bonding is not something that just happens. It takes a willingness to put in some effort on both sides to build the trust and friendship. Trust is earned and an important step is demonstrating that on a site such as this is to be validated through the certification process. To my mind that is an important first step in building trust, to possibly them moved to a level of friendship which may lead to meeting and possibly then bonding. But without certification it is hard for trust to be established.
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