I find the showing of sexual organs just for the sexual innuendo a bit stupid on a nudist site. Having said that, if this was a nudist site the administrators would eliminate those folks that do it. It is a nice site and I'm not saying change anything, but understand what it really is. The AANR it isn't.
Now having said that.... why are you reading other people comments about someone else's photo ? Sounds like a very boring activity to me. I read what people post on my photos, but the comments on the photos i find "offensive" I would never bother to read. I might even post on their photo "I find this offensive. Why post it here??
And thats all I have to say about that !
Having been a nudist for long time now and visiting a lot of nude beaches, size of genitals is not something that I take much notice of, unless of course, it's extreme. The nude beach that i went to on St. Maartin in January, was full of guys that I did not know. I struck up conversations with many of them and had a great time, but I couldn't tell you who was bigger than anyone else.
I believe too many prudish nudists are the reason we have trouble with attracting the next generation. They see our hypocracy. We cry FREEDOM but still insist on restricting it. If we are truly free enough to strip off our clothes, then let us truly be free to let other nudists be the type of nudist they are without fear of judgement or censorship.
I think blurring the lines between sexuality and nudism is a bigger reason, at least in gay circles. I think that the induced body dysmorphia from our media and society is another reason. A lot that goes into that dysmorphia is size obsession, with penises for the guys and with breasts for the women. I don't see a problem with complementing someone by saying they have a nice looking something or another. I don't necessarily see a problem with pointing out that someone is disproportionately larger or smaller in some way (let's say the thickness of their arms for instance). Adding the value judgement I think is where things start going off the rails for me, and I don't see why calling that out is a bad thing.
The concept of enjoying naturism regardless of whether everyone has a porn body and endowments is the nice thing about the whole experience. Going around judging everyone based on those false metrics is the antithesis of that. Bringing up whether someone is largely endowed as a positive metric just continues to propagate the superficial BS that the rest of our society does. When discussing the human value of a person it seems as appropriate as bringing up the car they drive, the size of their house or the size of their checkbook. Bringing up these facts isn't the problem. Making it the basis for the value we apply to the person to receive positive judgement however is, in my opinion. Sure people are free to do that. I also think people should be free to call it out.
There are a lot of good points made in this discussion, but one that has been over looked. Like many things, it is the thought that counts. The comments were meant as compliments. Being that this is a website and people are sharing photos, the photos will be commented on. I have personally complimented guys and everything from a hairy chest to a beautiful house. I get a number of comments on my piercings, they are on my penis, they are in photos... It is expected.
The question raises another question that no one has spoken. What is the reason that led us to register on the group 'Gay And Bi Male Nudists "? It's not the nudity as it is processed through the site universally, all sexual orientations and gender combined. This group aims to talk about things that are specific to us. This is not sport, it is not literature, or film, or etc.. This is our sexuality that we are attracted to other men and parts of our body.
When I read in the presentation of the group it concerns those "that want to Discuss That matters are of serious concern for gay and bi nudists", I wonder how to determine whether we are "seriously" gay, bi or nude?
It reminds me of a friend who, when we were contacted about a site, I had that I was not a real gay, since having been married to a woman. For him, he had to have known that men (biblically?).
Now, when someone saw my pictures, send me a compliment saying he finds me beautiful I replied that I thank him, but that beauty is subjective.
To return to the penis, I think, to parody a saying, it is sometimes better to avoid having eyes bigger than your stomach.
Claude
Sorry, but I'm French, I hope I have expressed my thoughts as accurately as possible! Thank you in advance for your understanding.
Aside from a gargantuan elephant penis on a human man I'd say who cares? Big, small, thin, long, short, fat whatever it is it's just a penis. About 50% of the people in the world have 'em. But that's not what this discussion is really about. What I get from the original comment is the fact that someone would leave that as a comment on a picture. I get annoyed when someone leaves what I consider to be inappropriate comments on pictures. TN is not a hookup site and the people here should act like mature adults. That being said, there are a few on this site who come for the titillation of seeing naked people, don't know how to act, and post stupid things. I typically block those people. I'd much rather talk to someone who acts responsibility and with whom I may be able to develop a friendship with than someone who thinks it's cute to be crude.
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