Very new naturist with a question
Hi all,
New member here, 38 years old and live in Sydney, Australia, and very, very new to naturism, as new as it gets. Finally went to a nude beach a couple of weeks ago after spending a couple of years trying to get the courage to get in the car and go, and really enjoyed it. My question is....I've heard that nudists are very approachable people and keen to make conversation/friends, and I'd love a nude beach buddy to hit up the beach with together, sadly I don't know anyone who's that way inclined....but how in the hell do you actually approach someone and say hi? The couple of times I tried today, I fell flat on my face, both times were with guys so I at least hope I wasn't coming across as a total sleaze who's only there to try and hit on people lol.
As you have undoubtedly discovered getting nude at a clothing-optional beach the first time is much less traumatic than you feared, well meeting nudists is the same. What you do is exactly the same as what you would to to meet anyone else at any other place.
Second this approachNudists are people.Some are approachable and want to converse, others aren't/don't.If you're walking along the beach, say hi to someone as you pass. You can usually tell from their response if they want to engage any further than that.
congratulation on your first nude beach see what you've been missing the pass few years but the next visit will be easy as you've already done it. here a thought see if there is a group here for the nude beach you visit if not start a group it's easy to do but don't let it go idle. look on the internet as example of the beach i visit ] friends of apollo beach new smyrna beach florida see if there a group meet . walk the beach become a regular there say hi , my favorite ask what time it is to someone walking by or take a camera again ask someone walking by to take your picture , i've had people gladly give me the time even engage in small talk and had my picture taken and taken picture for others .
You're wise to stick with trying small talk with men, which is easier as in the textile world as well. I've found it easier to talk with people when they have the safety of numbers, unless they seem to be seeking privacy. As a newbie, you might also ask questions about the logistics or etiquette of the location, which shows respectful behavior and isn't prying into personal matters. Good luck.
The only thing I have to add is that when you go to any social situation, nude or clothed, many of the people have already formed cliques that exclude strangers, at least at first. They'll be aloof until they see you around a lot, after which time they'll start to make contact with you. So give it time.
As a fellow Aussie I had no trouble meeting guys at the beach when I first started. In fact, all my close friends are now nudists. I suffer from social anxiety, as well as having Aspergers, so out in the real world I find socialising extremely difficult and stressful. But at nude beaches I feel completely comfortable and have no trouble talking to guys. The reason for that is the lack of judgement in the nudist world, and people not trying to pretend they're something they're not. It's also the least homophobic environment I know of. In other words I can be myself and feel accepted by everyone.
To answer your question, just say hello to someone who you like the look of. Guys trying to sleep or reading a book probably want to be left alone, so I don't approach them. You'll know straight away if someone is interested or not. If he isn't, he'll appear not interested or standoffish, so just move on. If things look possible then begin the conversation - easiest thing is to talk about the beach; ask something about it if it's your first time there, or ask him if he gets there much, or what other beaches he goes to. Things will lead on from there if they're meant to.
I've ended up with some really good long term friends who I go to the beach with, and on nude bushwalks. Others I catch up with just at the beach. It's a great community with a real sense of belonging.
nickster wrote:I am very new here and trying to find likeminded people in my area of WY. Does anyone have any ideas?
I don't see any listings for Wyoming in any of the major clubs' websites. You might have to do some web searches on your own.
Good luck!
I agree with what another commentator has said already - its the same as any other beach, do exactly what you would do at a clothed beach. Some folks will engage others wont; its not exclusively a nudist issue.
Having said that - you need to acknowledge that as a solo male you are starting from the most disadvantaged 'group'. All genders and orientations are cautious of the solo male! So, the answer to this is to also do like you'd do at a clothed beach and go there with friends. Work up conversations with folks on here and on other forums where nudists communicate - and look up a Meet Up for a nude beach visist!
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