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Same here

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Some nudist places/communities discriminate against single males some places are very accepting other places are accepting but have strict codes of conduct it varies so it hard to generalize.

Thing is when a single guy has a negative experience its hard not to take it personally. I know because I have been at my club/venue as a single male for several years now though I have had occasion to bring a female friend over the years.

The challenge is twofold in my opinion.
One there are some men whose behavior makes it tough for everyone else. Last summer there was a single guy who went around the place inappropriately propositioning single and married women. He was banned for life. After the women came forward (not an easy thing) and reported the behavior. This summer there was a guy who thinks it was ok for him to keep touching my partner without her permission. We are documenting and reporting this.

Two those and others who have been discriminated against had bad experiences or barred from venues and communities often try to paint of picture of the experience of single as singular. Saw that happen on here when someone posted that my home club no longer accepted single men when I as a single man was there and felt quite accepted.

So my suggestion to single guys is maintain the code of conduct that says anything you wouldnt be legally allowed to do or isnt appropriate if clothed dont do it cause you are naked. Also if you do get to a community or venue do stuff to earn your cred. Dont just sit off by yourself or skulk around thats creepy. Participate in activities. Play volleyball bring a dish to the potluck take a yoga class and once people see you arent creeping they will invite you to other stuff. I got regular massage at my club and when people as the massage therapist (who has become a friend) what she thought of me she was able to share that I was not at all suspect. I wasnt asking for anything but a good massage, unlike some.

Its not always easy or simple but there is definitely a place for single men in nudism your behavior is your passport.

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So my suggestion to single guys is maintain the code of conduct that says anything you wouldnt be legally allowed to do or isnt appropriate if clothed dont do it cause you are naked. Also if you do get to a community or venue do stuff to earn your cred. Its not always easy or simple but there is definitely a place for single men in nudism your behavior is your passport.

1. I've never seen or heard about a written code of conduct. One resort demanded that I bring my children's birth certificate and a written statement from their biological mother allowing the children to attend. This is in total disregard of our divorce agreement granting me full custody rights.
2. It's obvious that being a good citizen is important to being accepted by a community. But can a single man get past the gatekeepers? What single parent is willing to drive a few hours with children without knowing they'll be admitted? What guarantee is good behavior when it's not defined and there's no chance to practice it?
3. What type of men are willing to put up with discrimination against their gender requiring them to be an adjunct to their women partners? Can you imagine a golf club only allowing women when they're with their menfolk? Can men at resorts accept that they may no longer be welcome if their wives are sick or pass away? What kind of belonging is that?

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As a male without a participating partner living far away from any major cities I feel Im not welcome to the nudist community
One reason I stick to the beach scene - everyone is welcome. I also belong to a men only nude hiking group. I have little interest in resorts with their rules and discrimination.

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Geez guys chill out. All i said was Nudony was welcome when he was single. I'm no rookie any longer there is bad behavior
when alcohol kicks in and it's my choice not to subject my wife to it. Heck I find it obnoxious. It has nothing to do with single male or female. Obnoxious goes both ways. I go to bed and shut all the lights down.

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when alcohol kicks in and it's my choice not to subject my wife to it. Heck I find it obnoxious. It has nothing to do with single male or female. Obnoxious goes both ways.

I'm glad you realize that obnoxious behavior - related to alcohol or other factors - cuts both ways for both men and women. You are lucky to have the choice of not subjecting your wife to it, putting you in a protector role. And if your wife were not around, and you got labelled as the obnoxious one and aggressor in her absense, turned away at the gates, would you still feel the problem is that men need to chill out in response? Or would you also find such places irrelevant?

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there is bad behaviorwhen alcohol kicks in and it's my choice not to subject my wife to it. Heck I find it obnoxious. It has nothing to do with single male or female. Obnoxious goes both ways. I go to bed and shut all the lights down.

This is why I have said the differentiator is not gender but the behavior of the individual. It is well within the rights of couples and venues to be cautious and protective. Single guys have to be more aware and conscientious in their behavior. If a venue or a group doesnt acknowledge good behavior then you wouldnt want to be there anyway. Thats why as single guy on this site I didnt get bent out of shape if a couple said no friend request or if at a venue certain couples didnt feel comfortable.

Instead I just continued to do my thing an behave is a manner that is aligned with the group or venue norms and let that speak for itself.

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One of the reasons I go to the resort near by mid week is cause they have a 12 single males a day rule. So if I dont door bust on a Saturday like trying to get a Black Friday sale, it might be tough luck getting in as a single male.

Online and resorts have this under current that single males are undesirables. It one of the reasons so many single males give up on the community. Seeing posts saying people find a partner as a logical solution is laughable. Hard to find a partner in a rather niche lifestyle when a lot have issues finding partner in general dating.

I been one to walk around looking to talk to people and people walk away as if I am an orge. It doesnt feel too well. Its sad that a lifestyle built on acceptance still doesnt have that for people within its very lifestyle.

I get lewd and drunken behavior being a problem. I get people not wanting to be around those. But its annoying to be thought as a lewd person because someone else acts a fool. Its a reason my pics are all full body with face showing. I am trying to show I am a whole person and not just my member.

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You are correct on two counts
Some groups and venues have such quotas and mindsets. IMO those that do are shooting themselves in the foot and will eventually go away.
You saidOnline and resorts have this under current that single males are undesirables. It one of the reasons so many single males give up on the community. Seeing posts saying people find a partner as a logical solution is laughable. Hard to find a partner in a rather niche lifestyle when a lot have issues finding partner in general dating.
Second you are correct that single men who behave appropriately pay the price for those who dont. Those of us who dont behave in lewd or overtly sexual manner need to hold the other to account becuase if we dont it ends up affecting us anyway. We need to counter behave anyway I want attitude with the whole person approach you describe
You saidBut its annoying to be thought as a lewd person because someone else acts a fool. Its a reason my pics are all full body with face showing. I am trying to show I am a whole person and not just my member.

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I lived in the north of England a few years ago and could only go to my friend and his wife's nudist club as a guest.

Where I live now there is naturist swim with no restrictions, you just have to join, on Saturday evenings not far from me so I go there once a week.

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