Lone man
The community is larger than you think. I have connected with many people over the years that don't live near me. Nudism is being comfortable in your own skin. Body acceptance. It's non judgemental. I am in a similar situation as you. And it is difficult to find others around me. Nudist resorts are bit of travel for me. So I connect with the community where I can. This is one place. There are many others. I've met nudists from all over the world. All of them over video chat.
On the one hand: yes it's harder when you're a single male. I've experienced the "quiet suspicion" of my motives being there myself.
On the other hand: there are plenty of single males at my resort. My wife and I are good friends with one of them (and acquaintances with others); and not only is she not "suspicious" of him at all, but she is actually quite comfortable socializing naked with him.
The issue of single males being "pariahs" is a bit exaggerated. And it doesn't apply to every single male at every single resort.
nudony wrote:The issue of single males being "pariahs" is a bit exaggerated. And it doesn't apply to every single male at every single resort.
Granted, I've mainly been to nudist resorts on the West Coast, but I have found this to be true. While as a whole, there may be some suspicion concerning our interest in nudism, it isn't an issue unless the guy is making an ass of himself. And like most social situations, any outsider will need a little time before he's accepted as one of the gang. It helps if you go with others you know.
Which leads me to another recommendation. If you live far from those resorts, make a road trip out of it and plan to spend a bit of time traveling. If you can make arrangements to have another person along, or to make contact with locals via this web site or others, so much the better. But there are a lot of folks who live 400 miles away from anything, and they do what they have to do.
We primarily stick to couples given past poor experiences with single males here at home. At our club it's a different setting. There we can just go to bed and turn the outdoor lights out leaving them sitting in the dark when to much alcohol has taken over.
Besides one way or another don't mess with Frank.
When Nudony was single we would have had zero problem for him to stay over at our house. He's a good stand up guy and we know it. We have seen to many guys morph into different people when the alcohol kicks in and then into repulsive types. Oddly enough if a wife is on scene things are kept in "check" with a couple.
We primarily stick to couples given past poor experiences with single males here at home....We have seen to many guys morph into different people when the alcohol kicks in and then into repulsive types. Oddly enough if a wife is on scene things are kept in "check" with a couple.
Funny how single men are not only perverts, they're drunken perverts. Is this all inevitable because we are penis carriers and it magically changes in the power of the WIFEY? I was unwelcome from resorts as a single dad of two elementary school kids at a time in my life when I had anything but time for drinking and perversion.
sexism /seksizm/
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination on the basis of sex
Could it be that in most cases, it's not that single men aren't welcome but that couples and single women are just being cautious? Some here think that because you've joined a nudist/naturist site, comment regularly and maybe post nude pics of yourself that you are somehow automatically trustworthy. Taking your clothes off around others, proclaiming you're a nudist/naturist, doesn't automatically make you someone others want to meet or befriend. For nudist couples and single females, visiting nude places and socializing nude with others doesn't mean you let your guard down completely.
We won't exclusively socialize or visit with only couples, but it's headed that way. Too many times, but not every time, the single guy likes to chummy up with the wives of our group before we actually get to know them. It's like they think, "well, you're naked around me so now I can say what I want and look where I want or act the way I want."
I have to agree with Rockdad with his observations with married guys acting one way alone and another with the wife present. We have close nudist friends. Granted, when he's had enough to drink, he thinks he's God's gift to women. But that's not the only time he hits on Di, our other nudist female friend and other women at clubs or resorts we've visited. When his wife's around, he behaves himself. If she goes back to the room to talk on the phone, he's on the prowl. We aren't the only ones that notice.
Taking one's clothes off doesn't automatically make one a nudist and a nice person. Single guys do have it tough in this community, and they should know that going into it. I'm don't agree that ALL clubs and resorts dislike or don't want single men to attend. At nearly every club and resort we've visited, many of them have a "Singles Club." I don't get the mentality that just because you're visiting a nude place that you should be automatically accepted and trusted. On that same note, there are most likely single women and couples that we would be cautious around.
Rockdad wrote:When Nudony was single we would have had zero problem for him to stay over at our house. He's a good stand up guy and we know it. We have seen to many guys morph into different people when the alcohol kicks in and then into repulsive types. Oddly enough if a wife is on scene things are kept in "check" with a couple.
So single men are discouraged because some men behave better when their wives are there. That sound a lot like pre-emptive action against an occurrence that may not happen. It's like pulling up everything in a garden because some of those sprouts might end up being weeds. In some circles, that's called "profiling," and it usually ends up with some people being unjustly penalized.
It seems that a better approach would be to admit single men but let them know when they get out of line, and that they're not welcome when they act that way. In other words, don't punish people for crimes they haven't committed yet. But be quick to invoke the consequences if they screw up.
We primarily stick to couples given past poor experiences with single males here at home. At our club it's a different setting. There we can just go to bed and turn the outdoor lights out leaving them sitting in the dark when to much alcohol has taken over.Besides one way or another don't mess with Frank.When Nudony was single we would have had zero problem for him to stay over at our house. He's a good stand up guy and we know it. We have seen to many guys morph into different people when the alcohol kicks in and then into repulsive types. Oddly enough if a wife is on scene things are kept in "check" with a couple.
I'm sorry to hear that. Whether clothed or naked you should know how to behave. My friends, brothers and myself like a drink or 2 usually after sporting events but we don't get loud or push into people but have a chat (dissect the game) and a laugh, also catch up on the crap in each others' lives. You have to have respect for others. I hate to think what the single males were doing at your place.
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