Brand new friends - appropriate questions
Hello, I joined TN to find fellow nudists I can relate to and get guidance as this is a fairly new lifestyle for me. As I have accepted friend requests, twice the very first communication is asking if I am shaved? I asked if they would go up to a clothed woman and ask that question? Then why is it ok to ask me that, especially the very first thing! Also the men that send messages of a sexual nature. This isn't a porn site! Anyone have thoughts, suggestions how to minimize these poorly behaved individuals? If I wasn't so secure in my skin, it would be enough to scare me away.
There is way more perverts on TN than there are true nudist. Why they don't go to a porn site is beyond me. Won't solve the perverted questions problem because of so many on here but id get use to using the block button!!! One problem I see tho....you've been on TN for only 7 days and you already have 96 friends. You're just asking for trouble when you collect friends that soon.....you look easy.....if you understand what I'm saying.
Welcome to TN by the way. Hope your time here gets better and ends up being a good time!!!
Don't confuse this site with actual, real-life social nudism. It's the internet, and it can be a tough neighborhood. Groups are a good way to find like-minded folks - you can judge the tenor of them by the discussion threads they contain, before you join. No one gets notified, by the way, if you delete a friend request or un-friend somebody, so you can let go of any folks you're not comfortable with, drama-free. You are absolutely right that questions right off about your body are inappropriate. Men are idiots. Your tolerance may vary.
I like this site because it gives me a connection to a world that I am not always able to access.
I apologize in advance if my thoughts seem inappropriate.
I'm a Christian, that means I am a Christ follower. As a result I'm not comfortable with posting nude pictures of myself here because that is "on the internet". As a Christian I am concerned with what is sin and what is not. This opens a whole new aspect, and dimension of my proclivity for nudity. I don't believe nudity is in and of itself sinful, if it were we all sin everyday, and the saying that "cleanliness is next to Godliness" is rendered ridiculous. That is because we all bathe everyday.
My premise is, that nudity is not wrong, and is scripturally sound, but because of peoples puritan thought training it would be hard to convince them otherwise. I'm okay with that.
I don't come here with the thought that I am going to satisfy some prurient interest. That is not my interest at all.
I am intrigued by people here that have arranged their lifestyle so that nudity is an accepted practice. Those that have the ability go without clothes. There is a school of thought here however that doesn't allow for my way of thinking. If you don't have a full frontal photo of you on your page that disqualifies you from membership in many groups. That's fine because people should be free to set their parameters on groups they set up but I'm not sure these attitudes help the "True Nudist" cause.
Oh well I'm going to step down from this soapbox now. You go girl!
I see you are now at 104 friends. I suspect you have so many because your pictures are viewable to "friends only" I have had a few so called friends, once accepted I never heard from most of them again. Most friend requests I get are from 20-30 yo Sweet honey's, who I am guessing are looking for a lonely old sugar daddy, or links to what i am guessing are porn sites :-( So you are not the only one targeted by the creepers.
That does suck, unfortunately you won't know if the people here are perverted unless you communicate with them. Good thing is that if they are block em right away. In the beginning I used to get a little offended when i would see "no guys" or something close to that but after being here for a while i understand why. But just keep your head up and block out the negative
I too am somewhat new at this myself. I joined here several years ago out of curiosity, but did not really become active until this year. Like most, I started as a home nudist and then "bravely" visited a nude beach! Once that ice was broken, I started spending more time on here to talk with other like-minded people. Here is what I have found....clearly all my own opinion:
In some ways, things are the opposite of what you would hope. The real nudists tend to be a bit more stand-offish because they don't want to be burned by pervs. The pervs are out to get as many friends as possible, so that they look like regular nudists. To find real people, I spend time in the chat room. You can tell from the chat in there, after a bit of a break-in period, who is real and who is not. Also, if someone sends you a PM and just says "hi"....don't pay attention. If they contact you with something worthwhile, then, certainly take them up in conversation. For example, if I saw you in the chat room, I might say: "Hi there, Alan here, from Wisconsin but did go to school at Drake, in Des Moines. Thought that I would say hi". Hopefully, that is normal enough and we can chat from there.
Think of making someone a friend as a "reward" for a nice chat and potential future chats. Make sense?
Hello, I joined TN to find fellow nudists I can relate to and get guidance as this is a fairly new lifestyle for me. As I have accepted friend requests, twice the very first communication is asking if I am shaved? I asked if they would go up to a clothed woman and ask that question? Then why is it ok to ask me that, especially the very first thing! Also the men that send messages of a sexual nature. This isn't a porn site! Anyone have thoughts, suggestions how to minimize these poorly behaved individuals? If I wasn't so secure in my skin, it would be enough to scare me away.
We all have choices and we all certainly do approach things in the same manner but these are our thoughts and opinions.
This site is marginal, at best, at keeping people out that shouldn't belong here. This site was suppose to promote nudism/naturism in a positive light but in our opinion, failed miserably. I say that knowing that they owners have already singled me out as some sort of trouble maker or at least one of their big PITA's! This site is packed with fakes, pervs, creeps, trolls and those seeking sexual gratification by viewing pictures of others and being able to talk dirty to a stranger and suffer zero ramifications or take any responsibility for things they say.
Regrettably, many, many other women weren't think skinned as you are but I wonder how long that will last because the fakes, pervs and creeps will just keep bombarding you with disrespectful comments and messages. This site and it's owners have shown who they care most for, the real truenudists or those that pay them a fee to look at pictures and get away with giving our female members grief for being truenudists.
I wish there was someone you could talk to about your issues but truthfully, I have a close female friend that has tried to remain her and thought she had the ear of the female half of the ownership but unfortunately she does not. Many others, women and men, have tried to have their gripes and concerns heard but never receive any response from the owners. Why do I stay if I feel this way? Many, many of us feel this way and we remain because we've found some really nice people here and made friends. Some of us have met face to face and have friendships because of this site but we have had to weed through some really bad apples to find the good ones.
One of the things I/we do before ever, EVER, respond to messages, friend requests and accept friendships is to look over that person's profile. If and only if, we find something in the profile that is worth continuing to read or have further communication, we might respond. We read search topics of discussion these people are involved in, groups they belong to and friends they've made. Many of these people are in sexually based groups, friends consist of young females with photos from the internet and they either get involved in subjects that are sexual or with some sexual undertones. I/we block many people a day. I've flagged 100's of profiles, I've sent dozens of messages. I'm not sure it does any good. All you can do is that and hope for the best.
Be well and be strong.
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