Advice Please.

Hi. At the moment you're not telling us much about yourself. A fuller profile and a couple of photos would really enhance your experience on this site. I see you're relatively young, and there's a group Older Advising Younger/Vice versa which is quite active and which I'd recommend. Your post would also have been a good one there. I don't see you in the list of members so far. I do realize that you might be a little insecure about sharing stuff here, but I've never had a problem. Go for it!

Not knowing anything about you (except your location and age) makes a reply more difficult, and each relationship is of course unique. I'm in exactly the same situation as the one you describe, however. And I do keep my activities on this and a couple of other sites discreet. That's the key word: discretion. Many of us were brought up to be totally honest, always tell the truth. In itself an honorable philosophy. While growing up, however, most of us also discovered that sometimes not telling the whole truth is actually better. Telling your Aunt Maud that her dress would look better on a donkey is unlikely to improve your position on the popularity ladder, Discretion oils the wheels of society. In this respect, I think that keeping silent is not all that dishonest. You don't own each other and everyone needs his/her private space. My partner and I give each other such space and, for instance, if he goes to visit a friend, perhaps they do something sexual, but since he'll always come back to me, I'm happy for him. It keeps a relationship in perspective. Jealousy arises from insecurity, and if you're secure in the relationship, then, again, you allow your partner space and he you, and no need to be possessive or jealous. (We've been together for 40 years now, by the way.)

If he were to ask me straight out whether I'm on this site, I'd not lie, and in fact I've mentioned one or two people in passing when their experiences seem relevant to our situation, so he's aware of some activity on the web, but that's a detail; if he had no idea of this, it would not alter what I've written. But, as just mentioned, in principle we know when not to be too curious.

So my short answer would be - don't feel bad about being here and keeping this to yourself. Just ensure that you give him (I can't see your original question while typing this, but I think it was he, though it wouldn't make any difference) the same degree of freedom.

Don't forget, again, that you and I don't know each other, so you'll need to decide how relevant this post is to your situation. You can always send me a message via my profile if you want to go into things more deeply. Then the discretion kicks in again. Success with your relationship!

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At some point, your partner is probably going to realize you're on this site. He's already ok with your nude interests, so I wouldn't be worried about it. After all, being on a social nude site isn't terribly different than going to the nude beach or resort and he's already gone to the beach with you - you'll see naked people and socialize at the beach/resort just like you do on TrueNudists - so don't over think it. You've kept your profile vague and aren't bold about displaying your interests and pics, so he'll probably be ok with you being on this site. Every couple has separate interests and the healthy relationships are those in which each of you allow the other to explore them, as long as they don't take over the relationship.

He's ok with this interest of yours, so don't stress over it.

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I am in a similar senareo where i am the nudist and my partner is not but is cool and accepting of it. I would be honest and upfront with your partner as lieing can lead to distrust when they find out. I myself love to be nude when i can but can't always at home when i have a housemate and then also my partner and also no privacy in the unit block i live. I do however enjoy attending local groups guys only to hang out nude and having that freedom to be myself. My partner and I are in a closed relationship but is under the understanding that nudist activity doesn't mean anything sexual. But however from time to time sometimes i may have a dick in my hand or someone may have my dick in their hand thats it.

In the end a relationship is based on trust with out this it will fall appart unless there are ground rules in place and an understanding with each party involved in the relationship.

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