Talking to female nudists.
I know that being male means obvious negative first impressions for female nudists, and i understand this. There ARE a lot of men in the world that take advantage of the beauty that is the female body. However, i am relatively new to nudism and I have been on TN for a while now but am still to find somebody that i can really connect to and have a natural conversation with. Personally i find it hard talking to other males about being nudist,especially this early on in myexperimentalyears. I find that female understand the emotions connected with how i am feeling, and offer unselfish impartial advice that really helps boost confidence if nothing else.
My problem however is this. As much as i appreciate the male population that request to be my friend (and i'm being honest guys, it's nothing personal) i don't understand why it is only males that will; a) approach me & b) reply to be messages. I feel this couple be several things. Firstly being that the female population on TN is probably overwhelmed with malecorrespondence, the majorityinnocent but a few otherwise. The other being that female numbers are low as far as nudism is concerned. I know i have raised this before and some of my TN friends may remember something i posted about the naked female body being more socially acceptable and therefore not having the need to join such websites, which is my second point. Is there a ratio that could explain my lack of communication?
Maybe i am approaching people wrong, maybe they just don't fancy talking to me or a mixture of all the things about, i just wondered about other peoples views and the matter but more to the point... advice? I'm not looking for chat up lines and anything of that nature. I'm just looking to have a good honest conversation with a female - as it make me more comfortable opening up. Nothing more, nothing less. I would love to hear from anybody who has something to say. Reply or message me, and don't be afraid to add. I'm always looking for new friendships.
Any females who wish to comment, please do. Your advice i need the most!!
hmmm..... As a male on the interwebz, I know how you feel. It's not just a problem dealing with TN, but pretty much any chatsite or so, there's always a much greater number of guys then girls. And yeah, I suppose that would mean the guys would try to hit on them all the time, probably even giving them no motivation to IM others; all the chats come to them, ya know?
For the subject on how to talk to them, I suggest, don't sweat about trying to talk to them. Kinda seems like an odd thing to say, but I found out just having a positive energy and not only enjoying urself but showing others ur enjoying yourself attracts attention from both genders. They'll begin to wonder "Hey, who's that guy? He sure is different/cool/nice/sounds like a guy I'll talk too" and BOOM! It happens :3 well......... not like that, but, you get my drift lol.
Honestly, on this site, I find it hard to even tell who's a girl and who's a girl. Whether that's a good or bad thing, not sure, but puts less stress on trying to impress the opposite sex, ya know? As far as chatting with the dudes, I know what you mean. I guess just feel like another guy is less likely to reject than a girl would. Dang, I'm not even sure if that's true because I have yet to IM virtually anyone yet xD. But yeah, simply enjoy the site and you'll get cool guy & girl friends in no time ^.^
Hi justtheonce, having looked at your profile, I reckon the first mistake you are making is by having a headless photo as your profile pic. If you choose the one of you lying down that would probably increase your chances. People like to know who they are relating to and not having a head makes that difficult. Apart from that just treat the ladies with respect, talk to them about other things apart from getting naked; ask them about things that they have listed in their profile. As in real life you will probably not get immediate success, but keep trying it will come.*****I noticed that one of the ladies in your friend list is also on mine, she is a very popular lady due in no small way to the fact that she is very welcoming and respectful; but this website is just a small part of her life.***Although I have not tried it myself yet (as I do not have a camera) the chatroom is a good place to connect with people, and more natural because you can talk to them directly, without waiting for the reply e-mail.
I've been a nudist for over 40 years of my 63 and will reply to just about any email or question coming from a man or woman. Some of my online friends have called me their cyber-mom. LOL I am very happy to help where I can.
I can recommend being respecful and introducing yourself to the person to whom you are diredting the quesiton. If your profile isn't complete, I can understand the hesitance of connecting.
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