The conclusion here is the point I was making in my last post. My wife had to go through her own "process" to get to that point. Expecting a non-nudist spouse to get there "instantaneously" is oftentimes just unrealistic. But that doesn't mean they can't get there.It takes patience, understanding, compromise, finding the "right" venue. And repetition. The first nudist resort/beach trip may not lead to any nudity at all. It might be brief. And that's ok; if it leaves him/her with a positive impression: it's a win. Just try to make a follow-up trip even better; using the knowledge you've gained from the first one. And keep going from there.What happened with my wife was not "miraculous." This was her fourth nudist resort trip; she knew the resort and what to expect. She had already been nude there; even if only to sunbathe away from the crowd. So finding her "naked confidence" simply came as a result of "comfort with her surroundings." She realized she would be "totally fine" if she opted to not cover up every time she got up. And once she got acclimated to getting around the resort naked: she naturally found her "naked confidence."
The point you make rings true for me and us.
Even though Di is what I'd consider a lifelong nudist, a veteran social nudist and an equal partner in this lifestyle, no matter where we are, she still has inherent traits that keep her, at times, from just diving in with both feet with social nudism.
Each time we visit a new place, she'll still wear a sheer cover up. She might as well not wear it because you can see right through it but for her, it's a comfort shield til she gets the lay of the land, the routine, the vibe of the place. Once in a spot we've chosen to spend the day, she sheds the cover and it's never seen again. Depending on her mood, she'll either wear it for the ride home or not. I just let her do whatever she wants to do and usually, it turns out what she does it what I wanted her to do! hahahahaha
It usually takes Di an entire visit or stay at a new place to become acclimated. But she knows what she likes and what she's comfortable with so we tend to visit the same places over and over again. One of the issues we have is that those places she's really comfortable in are far away. Two particular places are 7+ hour drive from home. But, I willingly make that drive in our car or motorhome because that's where she's most comfortable.
If I had my way we'd visit every single nudist resort/club/B&B in the surrounding 3 states. I guess that's the "adventurer" in me. I like to discover new things, new people, etc...
But that would also mean that my wife would have to go through her "acclimatization" process all over again, every single time. Not to mention that one single bad experience at the "wrong" resort could result in a setback. And after coming this far the last thing I need is another setback!
I knew from last year that LOTW had "struck a chord" with my wife. It was the lake: where she found her quiet connection between nudity and nature. It's going to be different for everyone: be it the quiet seclusion of a backyard, the friendly connections of non-landed clubs, or the vastness of the oceanside C/O beach.
I think that is perhaps the biggest factor when it comes to women and nudism. They need to "connect to something", on an emotional level, to find their "naked confidence." If you're "all over the place" with nudism, or impatient, it's going to make it harder for them to "connect" to anything.
Because my wife found that connection at LOTW by the lake, she was able to explore it and fully experience it by choosing to stay naked. Now it's just a matter of maintaining the connection. So much for the "adventurer" in me! But knowing that she is now totally comfortable naked at LOTW makes the "sacrifice" well worth it; even it did mean several hours of driving (luckily for me LOTW happens to be only 70 mins away!)
If I had my way we'd visit every single nudist resort/club/B&B in the surrounding 3 states. I guess that's the "adventurer" in me. I like to discover new things, new people, etc...
Same here... I'd love to travel from one nudist place to another. Every time we travel within the US, a nudist venue is always on the itinerary, be it for the day, overnight stay or longer. Di also has a little trouble with acclimating to the new places so we tend to visit the same places. I sneak in a new place here and there and she gets comfortable and then it's added to the list but there are far too many to get to them all.
We're hoping to return to Europe; Spain, Portugal, Italy in the next year or two. We will find, visit and stay at nudist/naturist places on that trip and she's looking forward to that.
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