I'm straight but have also received several compliments on my body from gay, bi-curious, and even straight men. I'm ok with that. Nothing wrong with complimenting someone if they look good. But a few did go beyond compliments, and then I usually tell them I'm straight and not interested. Friends are always ok with me.
I don't think most men, gay or straight are offended if someone says "you look great!" As a gay man myself, and one that in my textile life has more straight men or married couples as friends, I look for that diversity of friendship here as well but I do pull back from those types of compliments out of fear that it could be misperceived. Maybe this is wrong, but being my age I have a tendency to walk on the safe side with my compliments to all here (be it straight, gay, man, woman), more so because saying something like "you have a great body" goes against my belief that all bodies are great (although I'll compliment an honest smile every time I see one). I am more open as relationships progress, but admit I would never say "you have a great body" to anyone I just met - it sounds as if I was more interested in the physical aspects of the person than the sum of the parts (including humor, kindness, intelligence, and empathy - i.e their mind).
I will admit that I do bristle when I see specific body parts called out in a compliment but that's not what you've said. If you have a comfortable relationship with the person you're complimenting I think you should be okay, and if someone were to mistake it hopefully you'd have the chance to explain it.
That use to happen in every site even with clothes on. At the beginning even in Facebook happened that....many bi curious and I was just talking about exopolitics and global affairs, types of learning, schools, books, etc.
I think we all love a compliment! If someone takes it the wrong way, well apologize, but a compliment is a compliment. I also am a people watcher of looks and attitudes, so often wonder what someone is thinking, too. Go with it, and follow you gut!
I have always said it is a shame that we are often 'quick it complain, but slow to praise' say for instance with service at a restaurant etc. The same is often with comments about people in the textile world. many of us will had heard other make derogatory comments such as 'her arse is to big for that skirt' or 'who does he think he's kidding in that'.
As naturists we love the human form in all is beauty whether it's a body like Adonis or one carrying more than a few extra pounds. Because we do appreciate the human form why should we not compliment it and accept those compliments in the manner they were intended. A straight man should not be afraid to say 'I think you have an amazing figure' to a woman. While he may find her physically attractive the compliment is not necessarily lecherous. Some may say making a comment about a particular part of someone's body is over the line. But as long as the right tone is used this should also be taken in the manner it's meant. As a gay man to me a male penis is a thing of beauty and I would hope a naturist man would except that if I paid him a compliment about his penis he would take it that I think he is a wonderful example of the male form and not that I want to have sex with him.
Some maty think I have a very simplistic view and that the world is not that cut and dried. But maybe that is the problem. We have forgotten to except the innocence in a remake and quickly perceive something that is not there
This is not about being gay or straight, it is about being comfortable with one's self. Just because you are complimented does not mean the person is hitting on you. If it makes you uncomfortable, simply voice your discomfort and move on. If someone rejects your compliment, don't take it personal, accept it and move on.
So if I can give my opinion on this. A complement is a lot of things. It really depends on What and How you say things. But in this environment (being naked), its a bit More touchy.
I have been very complementary to people, regardless of gender. But if I say woman, nice shirt. Its usually fine. They say thank you, and we both go on our way. But if I say, nice boobs. Thats pretty unacceptable even if shes wearing a Shirt... You think it would be different in a nudist society, and I think it is slightly. But more in person than online. Because you can see peoples intention. So yes, it is What you say. We can say that we are non-sexual, and accepting of everyone and appreciating each other in a natural way. There will still Always be that question, even if to protect yourself, which is a natural thing.
So if its still awkward for a person to look at or say something about a part of the body that Clothed society has deemed to be sexual. Then we just dont do it...
To clarify Ive recently joined the site. And I am not shy about my body, and as such I uploaded some pictures. Feeling comfortable in my skin and an accepting nudist society. So personally I wouldnt mind complements on my pictures in general. Nice shot or great lighting or thanks for sharing or even you look great.
And I have got those. Buuuut, I have also received many comments on a more personal level. From both men and women. And even the ones from women, were a little awkward. For me, not growing up as a nudist, when a woman says something about your physique, or butt or penis. Its always seen as sexual. So you can imagine how I feel when I hear that from guys...
So I say, if you think it might be awkward to say. Then dont.
Well thats my two and half cents.
This is an interesting thread. I started on the first page (as you do), and noticed the comments about clothing. I could see the linkage to compliments for a nice figure, that was perhaps easy or pleasant to fit clothing to. It also made me think of the very rare times when I've been complimented on a beach. In fact so rare, I can only remember one occasion. I'm fairly sure that the comment was made to suggest I participate in some activity with said gent, to which I politely declined.
Anyway, moving on,. If someone were to comment on my towel, or my bag, and then strike up a conversation that led to them saying that I look ok for my age, or that they like the way my body hair is shaved, that's great. But to start with an opening line that your butt looks tasty, is a little presumptuous.
In other words, at least ask my name before saying something either positive or negative about my body please.
After all that, I'd love to get to know other nudists/naturists to meet and socialise with. Not much beats a coffee and conversation, at least once the COVID is all sorted out...
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