I don't think I could keep my clothes on for three visits. :-D
For my first CO beach visit I walked the length on the beach in my swimsuit (Sunnyside North; perhaps 600m end-to-end) before coming back a little way and finding a spot to 'fully participate'. I felt a little guilty at taking that long to drop the suit...
Always interesting to see some folks talk about their preference to be clothes free and how it is often denied and the set about denying others a preference in order to get their own. How exactly does that work. I am reminded of this statement from Marc Alain Descamps naturist philosopher and fervent advocate of naturism ans a way of life.Naturism should never be imposed on those who do not want it. Many people are very ashamed of their body, their sex and are traumatized by the sight of the human body, so they can never get naked. And it is necessary to respect their state, as in the various phobias. Many people cant stand the sight of mice, spiders or snakes and you shouldnt force them.
If we want others to respect our preference shouldnt we also respect theirs?
homeclothesfree wrote:If we want others to respect our preference shouldn't we also respect theirs?
I agree. For some people, it may take more than three or four visits to adjust to the new situation, particularly if they've come from a background of puritanism or sexual abuse. I'd rather tell them, "Be comfortable with us. When you're ready, you're ready."
homeclothesfree wrote:If we want others to respect our preference shouldn't we also respect theirs?
Yes, and as it has been discussed here many times about getting a spouse to join in, it has to be their decision not anyone elses. If they arent sure about it but are willing to dip their toe, how can they get comfortable iftheyare pushed all the way in immediately?
Then again, there are many stories here is those that were hesitant but felt it of place while they kept their clothes on. Once they got their courage up and stripped off, they got comfortable with the idea quickly!
homeclothesfree wrote:For some people, it may take more than three or four visits to adjust to the new situation, particularly if they've come from a background of puritanism or sexual abuse. I'd rather tell them, "Be comfortable with us. When you're ready, you're ready."
I personally know of only one situation, where someone was so badly scarred and crippled in a car accident - and very self-conscious about it - that she was given a "pass" on undressing. But then again this was at a small C/O non-landed club, where the owner could take an individualized approach on a "case-by-case" basis. I believe it took several years before she summoned the courage just to go topless. A non-landed club may well be the best venue for someone dealing with emotional/physical trauma.
My only question would be: would she have taken that much time if a non-coercive timeline or condition had been presented to her? Of course it's impossible to tell. And I'm not advocating "forcing" anything on anyone.
Based on my personal experience, the desire to "fit in" can be a powerful motivator. My wife, on her first resort trip, was not particularly "inclined" to undress. But she wanted to get in the hot-tub; and the only way to get there was to enter the "nude-mandatory" pool area. So her decision to get naked was based on its practicality, and the idea that she could just "blend in" and remain innocuous by being naked like everyone else; even if just briefly to access the hot-tub. The "fun" aspect of it would kick in a little later. That seems to be a common experience for many first-time women; no matter what level of body-acceptance they might possess.
But I understand this process becomes much more complex when there is pre-existing trauma involved. Would an empathetic "push" help such a person; or would it send them running back to the car? Well that's going to depend on a lot of factors. But I do feel that it's up to the person to be totally transparent at check-in about their "readiness" and emotional state. An astute and empathetic manager/attendant can then make recommendations based on that person's individual needs.
Just a thought...
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