DIfficulties of being a Single Male
I am completely new to this site, and very new to nudism.
I have always enjoyed the freedom of it, and as a youth would go skinny-dipping with mates, without a problem. However my ex had an obsessively strict Catholic upbringing, and really put the kibosh on anything.
It's bizarre, but in this I honestly thought I find people to be less nasty and judgemental. So it been quite a shock to find the opposite.
I don't know what it's like in the rest of the world, but in my local city it's extremely tough.
The few nudist clubs there are all sound very welcoming until you try to join as a single male. The reasonings are apparently the same problem on this site.
I've only ben here a couple of days, but have already had my fill. Read the profiles of couple or god forbid females in my city, and its just page after page of rants against single men. I get it, I understand what the problems are, and it seems that rather then weeding out the trouble-makers, we all get tainted with the same brush.
The sad irony, is the people don't seem to reaiise that genuine single men cop exactly the same problems, only worse.
I haven't posted any photos yet, (I must be strange in that I don't have a library full of naked picture of myself.) So of course all of the friend request I have received are from gay males. (If there's one thing worse than being hit-on by gay males, it's NOT being hit on.)
So far my limited attempts to connect with other single-male nudists in my area, have all met one of two fates: Either they are gay and looking for hookups, or they are young & fit and not interested in hanging around with embarrass old fat guys.
Your problem as a genuine single male naturist is not single females or couples.
Its the other single males that are not genuine, and think that naturist women or couples are desperate to meet single old fat men.
Thankfully this is mainly an internet problem, I know its difficult for singles to become club members but its easy to go to the beach. As you become better known then itll be easier to make friends.
Your problem as a genuine single male naturist is not single females or couples.Its the other single males that are not genuine, and think that naturist women or couples are desperate to meet single old fat men.Thankfully this is mainly an internet problem, I know its difficult for singles to become club members but its easy to go to the beach. As you become better known then itll be easier to make friends.
I count as a single male , as my wife is non naturist, and would say I largely agree with this statement. It has always been hard to join landed naturist clubs, even before the internet. But beaches, swims etc are easy enough to get to. I have attended/joined a couple of naturist swim clubs/meetings in my area with no problem. If you are interested in trying to join such things I would consider joining your national naturist association, BN in my case. I found I got a more positive response to membership enquiries etc once I said I was a member of BN. I guess it kind of gives you some credibility as a genuine naturist.
But on sites like this then yes you are suffering from the behaviour of a significant percentage of single males on these sites. Many are not naturists and/or are on sites like this for reasons other than naturism.
Your problem as a genuine single male naturist is not single females or couples.
I never said it was.Its the other single males that are not genuine,
Yes, as I clearly said.single old fat men.
Wow, way to be offensive and judgemental.but its easy to go to the beach.
Is it though?
When a beachgoing social group that "welcomes everyone" tells you that you're not welcome to join them at the beach as a single male?
When you plonk yourself, in the middle of an area, but equidistant, a good 20ft away from others, and they still get up and move?
When you get hit upon by a pair of octogenarian gays who assume you must be desperate?
I've only ben here a couple of days, but have already had my fill. Read the profiles of couple or god forbid females in my city, and its just page after page of rants against single men. I get it, I understand what the problems are, and it seems that rather then weeding out the trouble-makers, we all get tainted with the same brush..
Forgive me if I misread this, but you seem to have a problem with females and couple here.
StevieLorna wrote:Forgive me if I misread this, but you seem to have a problem with females and couple here.
I didn't read it that way. I'm in the same boat as the original poster and, while I don't have a problem with females and couples, it seems that they sometimes have a problem with me.
I could chalk it up to my being an obnoxious person, but I don't usually strike people as being one when I have my clothes on. It's only when I'm naked that people think I'm undesirable. (I'm old and fat, too, but again, that doesn't seem to make a difference when I'm clothed.)
I am completely new to this site, and very new to nudism.I have always enjoyed the freedom of it, and as a youth would go skinny-dipping with mates, without a problem. However my ex had an obsessively strict Catholic upbringing, and really put the kibosh on anything.It's bizarre, but in this I honestly thought I find people to be less nasty and judgemental. So it been quite a shock to find the opposite.I don't know what it's like in the rest of the world, but in my local city it's extremely tough.The few nudist clubs there are all sound very welcoming until you try to join as a single male. The reasonings are apparently the same problem on this site.I've only ben here a couple of days, but have already had my fill. Read the profiles of couple or god forbid females in my city, and its just page after page of rants against single men. I get it, I understand what the problems are, and it seems that rather then weeding out the trouble-makers, we all get tainted with the same brush.The sad irony, is the people don't seem to reaiise that genuine single men cop exactly the same problems, only worse.I haven't posted any photos yet, (I must be strange in that I don't have a library full of naked picture of myself.) So of course all of the friend request I have received are from gay males. (If there's one thing worse than being hit-on by gay males, it's NOT being hit on.)So far my limited attempts to connect with other single-male nudists in my area, have all met one of two fates: Either they are gay and looking for hookups, or they are young & fit and not interested in hanging around with embarrass old fat guys.
I was a member here for nearly a year before I posted much, just reading a lot to get a feel for the site. What I found is that you are not alone. Others like you and me just go about enjoying whatever nude time we can get. And realise we will never fit in with the social butterflies. Go to the beach for your own benefit and enjoyment. My view, sometimes it is better to be your own best friend.
I have also PM'd some members local to me, in the hopes of getting more social. Never got a response back :-(
As with clothed life it is up to you to make the best of life. Some of us have created private backyards and gardens, others find out of the way places to sun, swim, and hike...
The pictures I posted were taken after I joined TN. Other than my baby picture on a fur, these are the only nudes of me. NO library full.
Code I dont think you need to apologise to anyone, you seen something wrong you have every right to call it out.
I seen another new naturist come to realise naturism is not what he thought it was or should be and other people are to blame for it.
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