Planned vacation together.
I need the freedom and relaxing feeling of being outside in nature without clothes. My wife thinks its crazy, and is much more private.
If I could plan a vacation to a clothing optional resort without her realizing its clothing optional, maybe conversations could take place at the pool side and she might begin to understand.
If any one on here is in the same situation, maybe we should plan a trip together and let our spouses see the freedom.
Does any one else wish you could convince your spouse to join in on a naturist life?
Generally I've found that doing thing behind your wife's back has a habit of biting you on the bum.
Maybe you could do something less dramatic than dropping her straight into the middle of a week's worth of naked bodies. A visit to Abbot's House on one of the clothing optional days may be a safer option, or a C/O beach if there is one near you.
Most people start off just by being naked more indoors, then if their garden is private enough extend it to their.
I would not take my wife to a clothing optional resort without telling her. She would be furious and insist we leave immediately!
Depending on your wife's personality , it might and might not work for you.
One time when I was at Gunnison, a young couple set up near me and she immediately stripped and he left a rather conservative suit on. They were trying to blow up a raft or something and having trouble so I asked if they wanted me to try. While I was helping, they were chatting and the woman had asked her friend/partner ( they never discussed the depth of their relationship) if he wanted to go to the beach without telling him it was clothing optional. After a while, he did drop the trunks.
I was told a story once of a guy who took his wife to a C/O resort without her knowing exactly where she was going. She basically had a nervous breakdown when they entered the front office to check in. The guy who told the story walked in on them and saw that woman crying her eyes out; and the resort manager promptly asked them to leave. It's just a recipe for disaster.
The best thing is just to tell her where you'd like to take her; and tell her - as many times as it takes - that she won't have to take her clothes off. Most resorts allow first-timers to stay dressed.
That's how I convinced my wife to give it a try.
I bet everyone recalls when as a kid you might have talked back to your mother or maybe got smart-mouthed. The result was a VERY LOUD, non-verbal mom-look. That usually scared the c**** out of me and I didn't want to repeat it. Of course I usually did - lol
Anyway, if we try taking our non-nudist partners (there's that word meaning you are in this together) to a c/o or completely nude place and not tell them in advance, we can expect to get that same VERY LOUD, non-verbal "mom-look." And that look won't go away anytime soon. I wouldn't want to live with that. No, please do not spring it on your significant other/wife/husband. Be up-front about where you want to go and why. If there is no give at all, then you must chose whether to go it alone or give it up. Tough decision of course but you don't want the other.
Dont do it, shell hate you for it and itll put her off completely. Better to find a regular hotel or complex that has a naturist beach nearby. Then suggest she joins you on the beach but doesnt have to take anything off. See how that works for you. Oh and make sure its not near your home as thatll frighten her if theres a chance of her friends finding out!